-- Posted by AnaA at 11:38 am on Jan. 10, 2017
Hi im having a bit of down moment.
Ive been with my bf 2 years. He has a 9 year old from a previous relationship.
Last year we were shocked to hear his ex was having a baby - his daughtet was not happy about it and misbehaved tremendously at one point rolling the windows down in the car saying she hopes the cold kills her sister.
suddenly she seemed to be at our house all of the time as either punishment for being naughty or because her mom needed a break.
My partner and I would like to have children but its always felt like it wasnt the right time and i really started thinking it was going to be this year but we just found out his ex is having another baby. I might be over reacting but im quite upset
-- Posted by Russ1 at 1:33 pm on Jan. 10, 2017
You can't exactly expect her to schedule her pregnancy to fit your schedule. If you want to have a child, go ahead. What difference does it make to you if she is also having a baby?
-- Posted by SimplisticComplexity at 9:50 pm on Jan. 10, 2017
Why are you upset about this? Is there some rule that says you cannot be pregnant at the same time as your husband's ex?
-- Posted by AnaA at 9:41 am on Jan. 11, 2017
Im not upset a out the mom
Its my stepdaughter
She doesnt like sharing her parents and when she had her first baby sister a year ago she smashed ny house to pieces
Which was a preview for me for what to expect
Thats why i kept putting my own off
But if her mom is pregnant again it will start the cycle again
-- Posted by Russ1 at 10:41 pm on Jan. 11, 2017
I have no idea why you put the focus on the other woman's pregnancy when you now say that's not the point. Anyway, addressing what you now say is the point, you need to be having a serious discussion with your boyfriend about this. If you're talking about having a baby with him, then you are signing on to a very long term commitment and obviously his daughter is part of the package. You guys need to get it straight between the three of you (you, him and his daughter) how this is going to go down. If he is not prepared to deal with his daughter, that is going to be a constant source of conflict between you and him and possibly a threat to the safety of a baby brought into the situation.