-- Posted by TechnoShark at 10:52 am on July 6, 2009 My dad found out I was molested when I was little. I never wanted to tell him. Apparently my grandpa kept a computer journal, and in it he said that there was a conversation between him and myself (that I don't remember) where he asked me if my babysitter was inappropriate and I just started crying and wouldn't talk. I didn't remember the conversation at all. I'm really angry that he knew and never did anything while I was little. Now I don't want anyone knowing and I'm really pissed that my dad found out. He came up to me this morning and had me read the entry and he asked if it was true. I still didn't want to talk about it but I told my dad yes it happened once but I don't remember anything else about it. What the fuck am I supposed to do now? -- Posted by MaryLin at 11:03 am on July 6, 2009 Your dad is just very concerned that he didn't know anything about this earlier. I think what you need to do is talk to him because now that he knows, you cannot avoid it. Tell him all you remember. Situations like this make people stronger and closer. -- Posted by SophFairy at 2:52 pm on July 6, 2009 I'm sure you're father approached you about this because he feels terrible guilt for not being able to be there for you, or protect you, during the time that this event happened. I know this can confuse things up for you extremely, because I'm sure it has brought about all types of emotions that you don't know how to deal with. Let alone want to. I think before the issue can be laid to rest you need to lay your cards on the table and talk to you father about this. Tell him how you feel about him knowing and what you want to do from here on in. If you don't want to mull it over with him then tell him that, but also give him an insight into how you're feeling about it all. It's best not to shut him out as this may do more harm than good. Obviously, it's highly understandable that this situation as thrown you and I'm sure he respects that. Just keep a clear head and this will all be fine. All your father wants is for you to be happy and safe. Take care. -- Posted by dougalmcflurry at 3:58 am on July 7, 2009 Your father is only showing concern for you by trying to approach you about this. What exactly is the reason you don't want to talk to anyone about this? Not that I'm saying you have to talk to anyone, but it might be helpful to you. It seems to me though as if you have overcome this and gotten over it, and your father approaching you has reopened the wound? Perhaps you should try and talk to him, not in detail, but just tell him how you feel, why you never told anyone, and that it's something you don't really want to talk about, if that's the case. -- Posted by RedNoir at 11:04 pm on July 7, 2009 Sometimes it's better to talk about it. Even though it's painful, if you just keep it bottled up inside, you will never be able to move on; it will always be there. If you talk about it, you will be able to let it go, and fully move on. You should tell your Dad and talk to him about it; he has the right to know. And just know that he must be hurting now too, not as much as you are; but he must feel awful because as a parent he is supposed to protect you, and someone hurt you and he didn't even figure it out until much later. Good Luck and God Bless.