-- Posted by emariehawk at 8:28 pm on July 2, 2009 My closest friends were the first to find out that I was diagnosed with depression and one of them told me it wasn't real. That depression was just an emotion. When he was completely wrong. He said I thought my way into it and I shouldn't be taking meds. His opinion mattered most to me and he just mad me feel horrible. I was the most let down I had ever been in my life. So my question is have you ever been in a situation it doesn't matter if it has to do with depression or anything but has someone let you down? Or do people just not get you? -- Posted by jamesish at 10:31 pm on July 2, 2009 Hey. First, it's saddening to hear that you're dealing with depression.  I wasn't granted very many details about your depression so I can't really comment specifically on options for it.  But I will say that you can think of depression as a tunnel that you're traveling in.  The light at the end is freedom from this depression.  Talking about problems and dealing with these problem will lead you closer to the light and out of this tunnel. Sometimes friends just don't understand. Many times they do but sometimes they just don't get the picture.  Depression is real.  Depression is more than just an emotion.  The "shouldn't be taking meds" is a cynical way of thinking.  When someone makes these kinds of comments the best thing is to just take it as he or she doesn't have a clue.  The key is to not let this comment get you down.  You know how you're feeling and the circumstances around these feelings.  If it's really effecting you then maybe you can talk to him about it.  Ask him why he thinks this way. Friends have let me down before.  Friends that I thought were the greatest in the world had their dark sides.  Sides that I didn't know existed in those certain forms.  But I realized that sometimes I let them down.  We still remained friends.  When they let me down, I try to brush it off and keep talking with them.  Maybe they had their reasons and sometimes things...just happen.  I try to make it a habit of expressing myself to friends that let me down. James. -- Posted by SweeterThanChocolate at 1:28 am on July 3, 2009 I agree totally with James here.  You know, people around you don't always understand, because they either haven't, or are not going through the same thing.  Throw away comments like you don't need medications, well, it's silly.  Of course you need them, otherwise you wouldn't have been prescribed them.  There is nothing wrong at all with taking medications to help you overcome depression, and it's just a support aid to help you get there quicker.   I do understand how you feel about being let down, I think everyone reading this would have felt let down by a friend at some point in their life, and I doubt this will be the last time in your life where you feel as if you could have got more support from a close friend.  All you can do is feel sorry for people who don't understand, and not let the comments upset you.  They don't live your life, and they don't know what it's like.   Ironically enough, the people close to you that hardly understand or support you are the first people to come talk to you when they have problems or situations, and expect you to fully understand them.  It's totally unfair, and yet, it happens all of the time.  They brush your problems off as if you're just imagining them, and yet if it was them, it's a serious problem and you should be there for them :) Yet, where were they for you? If a close friend is not going to be there for you, or support you or even understand to a small % what you're going through, then you need to consider, why is this person your friend?  I mean, when you think of it, surely the closest people to you should understand you more than anyone else.  And if they don't, then it says a lot about the friendship you both have. I wish you good luck in getting through your depression, I am sure you will be feeling much better soon.