-- Posted by Live Just To Die at 12:36 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 I think my sister is autistic... Shes 13 hand has no friends, she hates kids her own age but people in their 20's or 30's. She is extreamly intelligent and can draw amazingly. She is really talented and has obsessions with things like Primeval and Friends. Now shes onto Family Guy and Scrubs. She hates men and boys in genral and won't talk to any male member of the family. She had a panic attack today because she had a hair cut (she never has them) and thought she would get picked on for looking different. All over her door are these drawings and sayings like "I don't want money I want change" and "I'm beautiful on the inside", my mum works with autistic people and won't get her help even though she knows whats up. My dad is a mental health nurse and says my mum won't help because she has a disorder that I will know about when I'm older, she wants to keep my sister close to her like a baby but wants me to be away and grown up because I remind her of my dad, who she hates, and thinks I am him basically... What do I do? How do I help my sister? I'm only 15. -- Posted by Rachelw at 12:39 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 just bring it up to your mom and if your mom hates ur dad why dont the divorce? if they are divorces if she hates you why dont u move in whith ur dad ? -- Posted by Live Just To Die at 12:40 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 Quote: from Rachelw at 12:39 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 just bring it up to your mom and if your mom hates ur dad why dont the divorce? if they are divorces if she hates you why dont u move in whith ur dad ? They are divorced... that isn't the problem, I still talk to my dad even though I don;t live with him, again, I can't live with him but THAT isn't the issue!!!!!! I can't talk to my mum, don't you get it? -- Posted by medjai at 12:40 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 Tell your school. -- Posted by nikki123 at 12:41 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 ask your mom? -- Posted by Live Just To Die at 12:43 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 Quote: from nikki123 at 12:41 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 ask your mom? She hates me... can't you people get that in your head?? -- Posted by Rainfallen22 at 1:03 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 oh wow... i hope you arent rachel. (my sister). This sounds just like me =[  and no she isnt autistic... if she is as simmilar to me as u make it sound like shes just a bit off. (What,. im not afraid to admit im a tad off). BUT i also know what YOU mean. My mom seems to hate me cuz im "like my dad" w/e that is. I dont even know how. AND she babys my sister... like she is idk. ANYWAY id talk to your dad. I mean... id hate to confront my mom =\ but i know as i wouldnt want to talk to my dad i would if i needed to. Your sister sounds like she is just a loner. at 13 i was just like her, but now im your age, and i have grown someowhat out of it  to my brothers surprise! -- Posted by Aliboo at 2:46 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 Quote: from Live Just To Die at 3:43 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 Quote: from nikki123 at 12:41 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 ask your mom? She hates me... can't you people get that in your head?? its hard for people to get it if they arent in the situation. getting angry at people on here isnt helping. so find another adult you can trust like one in your school or someone involved in medicine, they should be able to help you. just be there for your sister and be strong -- Posted by live laugh love 93 at 1:25 pm on Nov. 16, 2008 She doesnt seem to have autisum. I work with special education at school and my brother has autisum. She seems to be just socially akward. Maybe she has aspergers{sorry for bad spelling!}, from what you say it seems like that. If you dont know what that is, it basically the highest functioning form of autisum, just with some core issues of socialising and learning. -- Posted by Live Just To Die at 2:12 pm on Nov. 16, 2008 Quote: from live laugh love 93 at 1:25 pm on Nov. 16, 2008 She doesnt seem to have autisum. I work with special education at school and my brother has autisum. She seems to be just socially akward. Maybe she has aspergers{sorry for bad spelling!}, from what you say it seems like that. If you dont know what that is, it basically the highest functioning form of autisum, just with some core issues of socialising and learning. Yeah I have been brought up with kids with aspergers, both my dad and step dad are mental health nurses and my mum works with kids with autism. I know what aspergers is. -- Posted by Takinam at 3:47 am on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from Live Just To Die at 2:12 pm on Nov. 16, 2008 Quote: from live laugh love 93 at 1:25 pm on Nov. 16, 2008 She doesnt seem to have autisum.    I work with special education at school and my brother has autisum.    She seems to be just socially akward. Maybe she has aspergers{sorry for bad spelling!}, from what you say it seems like that.    If you dont know what that is, it basically the highest functioning form of autisum, just with some core issues of socialising and learning. Yeah I have been brought up with kids with aspergers, both my dad and step dad are mental health nurses and my mum works with kids with autism. I know what aspergers is. Then why don't you just ask your mother? -- Posted by Live Just To Die at 11:39 am on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from Takinam at 3:47 am on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from Live Just To Die at 2:12 pm on Nov. 16, 2008 Quote: from live laugh love 93 at 1:25 pm on Nov. 16, 2008 She doesnt seem to have autisum.   I work with special education at school and my brother has autisum.   She seems to be just socially akward. Maybe she has aspergers{sorry for bad spelling!}, from what you say it seems like that.   If you dont know what that is, it basically the highest functioning form of autisum, just with some core issues of socialising and learning.    Yeah I have been brought up with kids with aspergers, both my dad and step dad are mental health nurses and my mum works with kids with autism. I know what aspergers is. Then why don't you just ask your mother? Did you read the question? Argh you annoy me. -- Posted by JeanClaude at 12:32 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Have you considered the possibility of talking to your mom about it ? -- Posted by Live Just To Die at 3:29 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Quote: from JeanClaude at 12:32 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Have you considered the possibility of talking to your mom about it ? my mum won't help because she has a disorder that I will know about when I'm older, she wants to keep my sister close to her like a baby but wants me to be away and grown up because I remind her of my dad, who she hates, and thinks I am him basically... -- Posted by thething912 at 4:29 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 Yeah, there could be a possibility of them having Asperger maybe but I think a psychologist would be able to determined that better than us though. And, encase people don't know this already Not everyone that goes to a psychologist is considered to insane. -- Posted by TKDgoneveggie at 6:45 pm on Nov. 19, 2008 well something is definitely not right, though i'm not positive it's autism keep pushing your parents to take her to a child psychologist -- Posted by Hoop Jargon at 5:46 pm on Nov. 21, 2008 Sounds like it could be high functioning Autism or Aspergers, but she needs to be seen by a specialist. How old was she when she started speaking? Does she have truble making eye contact? Sounds like you got some serious family issues that need to be resolved. It seems like your Mum has been around Autistic people for a long long time, and as talented and special they can be, they can also be difficult and EXTREMELY hard to relate to. Perhaps that is something she doesn't want to see in her own daughter. Now this might sound a tad bit strange, but if she is left undiagnosed it might be better for her in the long run. Alot of people with Autism and Aspergers Syndrome are left undiagnosed and they form their own niche in life and have very furfulling lives. Treatment for Autism, I believe, should only be necessary in extreme cases. If your sister seems to be really missing out and your mum continues to be stubborn, then I would suggest you get your dad to take action, and if he is unwilling, get a social worker involved. That last option should only be if ALL ELSE fails.   Good luck :-) -- Posted by Catacomb at 12:08 pm on Nov. 22, 2008 if you're the only person thinking she is maybe she isnt. why would everyone not see that assuming your mom isnt neglectful or stupid -- Posted by JeanClaude at 7:23 pm on Nov. 22, 2008 Quote: from Catacomb at 3:08 pm on Nov. 22, 2008 if you're the only person thinking she is maybe she isnt. why would everyone not see that   assuming your mom isnt neglectful or stupid we should wait until he asks his mom before we pass judgement -- Posted by Catacomb at 12:19 am on Nov. 23, 2008 Quote: from JeanClaude at 2:23 pm on Nov. 23, 2008 Quote: from Catacomb at 3:08 pm on Nov. 22, 2008 if you're the only person thinking she is maybe she isnt. why would everyone not see that  assuming your mom isnt neglectful or stupid we should wait until he asks his mom before we pass judgement im not passing judgment, i'm just pointing out lack of qualification or is it more supportive for me to say 'yes your sister could be autistic' his parents seem like they would be better informed about this. wouldn't they know? -- Posted by TheatreMinelli at 2:15 am on Nov. 24, 2008 I don't think she is autistic especially is she is obsessed with TV shows and enjoys drawing. Autistic kids tend not to be as creative, and take things literally. But ask your mum to take her to a doctor. She sounds a bit like my sister though who is just a bit introverted, and lacks sekf confidence. -- Posted by SomeoneSaveUs at 7:07 pm on Dec. 6, 2008 She isn't autistic, but she may have Aspergers, which is a bit similar but more social.  She may just have a social phobia.   I have social phobia and am quite intelligent and also draw well like your sister.  I also care too much about what people think which results in panic attacks if I do something different that might result in someone thinking differently or badly of me.  She sounds like me to be honest.  Medicine and therapy do help.   If you have any questions you can ask me if you would like too.   -- Posted by Live Just To Die at 5:28 pm on Dec. 7, 2008 Quote: from Hoop Jargon at 1:46 am on Nov. 22, 2008 Sounds like it could be high functioning Autism or Aspergers, but she needs to be seen by a specialist.   How old was she when she started speaking?   Does she have truble making eye contact?   Sounds like you got some serious family issues that need to be resolved. It seems like your Mum has been around Autistic people for a long long time, and as talented and special they can be, they can also be difficult and EXTREMELY hard to relate to. Perhaps that is something she doesn't want to see in her own daughter.   Now this might sound a tad bit strange, but if she is left undiagnosed it might be better for her in the long run. Alot of people with Autism and Aspergers Syndrome are left undiagnosed and they form their own niche in life and have very furfulling lives. Treatment for Autism, I believe, should only be necessary in extreme cases.   If your sister seems to be really missing out and your mum continues to be stubborn, then I would suggest you get your dad to take action, and if he is unwilling, get a social worker involved. That last option should only be if ALL ELSE fails. Good luck :-) Finally! A good nice answer! -- Posted by Rachelw at 10:05 am on Jan. 28, 2009 Quote: from Live Just To Die at 3:40 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 Quote: from Rachelw at 12:39 pm on Nov. 12, 2008 just bring it up to your mom and if your mom hates ur dad why dont the divorce?    if they are divorces if she hates you why dont u move in whith ur dad ? They are divorced... that isn't the problem, I still talk to my dad even though I don;t live with him, again, I can't live with him but THAT isn't the issue!!!!!! I can't talk to my mum, don't you get it? I understand talk to one of her teachers or an adult who will bring it up to the  right person -- Posted by Natsy at 11:18 am on Jan. 28, 2009 does she have theory of mind? xx -- Posted by Live Just To Die at 12:52 pm on Jan. 28, 2009 Quote: from Catacomb at 8:19 am on Nov. 23, 2008 Quote: from JeanClaude at 2:23 pm on Nov. 23, 2008 Quote: from Catacomb at 3:08 pm on Nov. 22, 2008 if you're the only person thinking she is maybe she isnt. why would everyone not see that       assuming your mom isnt neglectful or stupid    we should wait until he asks his mom before we pass judgement im not passing judgment, i'm just pointing out lack of qualification or is it more supportive for me to say 'yes your sister could be autistic' his parents seem like they would be better informed about this. wouldn't they know? I'm a girl. My mum and dad both think she is, they will just do fuck all about it. -- Posted by JeanClaude at 3:09 pm on Mar. 28, 2009 Did he ask his mom yet ?