-- Posted by Anonymous at 11:09 am on July 21, 2008 So I'm on the pill, but I've always made my boyfriend wear a condom when we have sex anyway because I don't trust the pill at all... it just makes me nervous because getting pregnant would pretty much ruin my whole life right now... Anyway, my boyfriend strongly dislikes condoms, because he didn't with his last girlfriend because she was on the shot and I guess wasn't as paranoid as me, and he says he can't feel as much with one on. Now, I know he can still feel a lot blah blah but I'd like to try having sex without one if it really is safe. I got a free sample of this spermicidal film stuff, and I'm thinking if I'm on the pill and use that and make him pull out I'll be safe? What are your thoughts??  Am I too paranoid? A FEW EDITS: 1. LAY OFF MY BOYFRIEND, PEOPLE! As I've already said, he has never and would never dream of asking me to not use a condom. He's the sweetest guy in the world. I'M the one bringing it up, because he is the sweetest guy in the world and as such deserves perfect sex 2. Obviously I am not being pressured in any way. To those of you telling me no to if I don't want to, you obviously don't understand what I'm asking. I'm asking if what I WANT to do is safe! 3. Neither of us has any STDs. So that doesn't need to come into play at all. -- Posted by rawrr at 11:11 am on July 21, 2008 if you dont want to, then dont do it. simple as that. -- Posted by niccole1 at 11:11 am on July 21, 2008 paranoid yeah you are but i still think u should use a condom -- Posted by hadouken at 11:11 am on July 21, 2008 dont do it -- Posted by Miss Spontaneous at 11:11 am on July 21, 2008 na..as long as your comfortable with it its fine. Your bf just has to understand that -- Posted by just me101 at 11:11 am on July 21, 2008 I know a girl who was on the pill and she ended up pregnant...you should be smart and do whatever you think is best... -- Posted by stargazer1 at 11:12 am on July 21, 2008 I wouldn't do it cause the pills are all that reliable. Hope this helps. -- Posted by ohemgeeitsme424 at 11:12 am on July 21, 2008 it seems like ur boyfriend is trying to be too controlling. they have special condoms for the exact purpose that it helps guys feel more... extra thin ones.. sensitive ones... warming ones... talk to him and tell him this.. im sure he prob already knows. but its nice to put it out there. -- Posted by 2kewl4u2know at 11:12 am on July 21, 2008 Not too paranoid.  It's your body that would be carrying the child, do what makes you feel comfortable enough.  Although the pill in and of itself is enough protection most of the time if you use it right.  But what you suggested I'm sure would work just as well as the condom. -- Posted by lilolme at 11:12 am on July 21, 2008 if u dont want to dont... but u should try it -- Posted by K r E s C e N d O at 11:12 am on July 21, 2008 Use a female-condom? -- Posted by xO AfW Ox 42O at 11:13 am on July 21, 2008 yea you are paranoid but its better to be safe then sorry -- Posted by mo money17 at 11:13 am on July 21, 2008 No, you're responsible. -- Posted by Anonymous at 11:14 am on July 21, 2008 Quote: from ohemgeeitsme424 at 2:12 pm on July 21, 2008 it seems like ur boyfriend is trying to be too controlling. they have special condoms for the exact purpose that it helps guys feel more... extra thin ones.. sensitive ones... warming ones... talk to him and tell him this.. im sure he prob already knows. but its nice to put it out there. My boyfriend isn't controlling at all... that's the thing.  I know he prefers sex without one, but he would never ever ask me to not use one. I just want him to be happy :) -- Posted by Latin Muscle at 11:15 am on July 21, 2008 Sex without one is way betterrr. But always have to  make sure the girl is on the pill. -- Posted by Anonymous at 11:15 am on July 21, 2008 Quote: from rawrr at 2:11 pm on July 21, 2008 if you dont want to, then dont do it. simple as that. Obviously, if I'm planning on possibly doing it, I want to. But things that you want aren't always the best things for you. -- Posted by swtpie at 11:15 am on July 21, 2008 You can never be to paranoid. As a couple, you need to come to a decision. If he doesn't like wearing a condom, then the spermicial film is a good way to go. Either way, no matter what you do, there will always be a chance of pregnancy. With my boyfriend, I actually asked if we could stop using a condom cause it hurt me. We now go unprotective, without bc or anything. But we'd be happy with a baby. -- Posted by tennisplayerV2 at 11:16 am on July 21, 2008 i'm with rawrr -- Posted by Rebecca1422 at 11:16 am on July 21, 2008 the pill is safer than condoms as long as its taken correctly x -- Posted by wmudude at 11:19 am on July 21, 2008 Quote: from rawrr at 3:11 am on July 22, 2008 if you dont want to, then dont do it. simple as that. Exactly. If you want him to wear a condom and he doesn't, then don't have sex with him. There's more at risk than just pregnancy, especially since he's had other sexual partners. -- Posted by ohemgeeitsme424 at 11:20 am on July 21, 2008 the point of the pill is to prevent you getting pregnant... the point of condoms is to do that... but also to prevent STD's. think about it. -- Posted by redsbaseball at 11:21 am on July 21, 2008 wut? -- Posted by John87 at 11:22 am on July 21, 2008 Sex is way better without condom. It gives much better sensation to both partners. However, if you dont want to dont do it! -- Posted by lonewolf03 at 11:22 am on July 21, 2008 I'm on the pill, and my boyfriend always pulls out. It works for us. Sex without condoms does feel much nicer, but it's up to you, you're the one who's body could be affected most. -- Posted by hazeleyedangel at 11:26 am on July 21, 2008 The pill is 99% effective at preventing pregnancy if it is used 100% correctly. Spermicide gel is 71% effective if used alone. Condoms are 97% effective when used alone. Combining a pill and a condom ups the prevention to 99.7% effectiveness when both are used absolutely correctly. Just some facts to consider. -- Posted by jayney16 at 11:27 am on July 21, 2008 sex without a condom feels a lot better but there is a higher chance of getting pregnant. but being on the pill helps -- Posted by sile at 11:28 am on July 21, 2008 If you don't want to have sex without a condom then don't your boyfriend is a dick if he complains about it because it's you that would end of worried about getting pregnant all the time just so he can feel a bit more. When im on the pill i still wont have sex without a condom, firstly because im uber paranoid about getting pregnant and want to be completely safe like you are, lots of thing can interfere with the pill, like other medications, or just forgetting to take it one day. And besides that the pill doesn't protect against S.T.I.'s and while im sure you completely trust your boyfriend so do the majority of people who end up getting infections. Basically in my view better safe than sorry and if a guy has a problem with that he can GTFO -- Posted by branflakes at 2:47 pm on July 21, 2008 you're way too paranoid do you realize that perfect, directed use of the pill results in pregnancy 0.3% of the time over the course of a YEAR. that means that if a THOUSAND people take the pill over a year and have sex, there are going to be 3 pregnancies. now, i know you may be saying "but i could be one of those three!" yeah, you could but no matter what you do there's always gonna be that "what if," no matter how small. personally, i think 3 out of 1,000 is a pretty fucking small possibility. there's reason and then there's paranoia and i think what you're displaying is paranoia. do you want to live your life in fear that you'll have the worst come to you or do you want to stick to your pretty good chances and enjoy yourself more? it's up to you. -- Posted by freddie at 3:12 pm on July 21, 2008 well from a guys point of veiw i see where you are getting at that you wanna stay safe and hey i dont blame you but if you trust him enough then go for it i mean i hve had sex without a condom befor and all i really did was just pull out b4 i was about 2 cuum and then we were all good so if you feel safe and you trust him go for it=]=] -- Posted by TigressaLynnMae at 5:40 pm on July 21, 2008 Branflakes: It's not paranoia. It's plausible precaution.