Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Overcoming Shyness Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Spirit[/m] at 1:21 pm on April 16, 2004[quote]very nice post, i suffer from shyness but recentely i've been getting better and these are some of the tips i've been using  :cool: [/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Plastik Posted at 8:44 pm on April 15, 2004 You also lack confidence, I see. And that's why he's here. There's always someone here whos's been there, done that, seen the worst of what it has to offer, and seen it turned around. So let's attack the situation thoughtfully, shall we? Do only the jacked jocks have girlfriends? Do only these people do ANYTHING with girls? The obvious answer is a loud no. So we've discovered that you are not hopeless, just lost. There is a means to the end, you just don't have it, and probably can't figure it out yourself at the moment. But it's there. Let's take it up another notch. You can get a girl. The possibility is there. So how do we act on it? Well, let's see! What do girls respond to? Confidence. The jacked jocks get this in spades because of popularity and body, so it comes naturally. For the rest of us, it's a bit more daunting. Here's the kicker though. If you have confidence, nothing else matters. You can even be a jackass, and confidence will get you X distance. Of course, to get further than X, you need not be a jackass, but I'm just saying. Confidence drives half the race. Alrighty...so we need confidence. How do we do that?! ...You have quite a bit of control over this. Never put yourself down, even if you think you're just admitting the truth. Never. Ever. You are fucking awesome, and you're gonna get what you want. Period. Adopt this mindset. As said by C. S. Lewis, if you wear a mask over yourself, you'll find yourself conforming to that mask sooner or later. Believe and you will be. Every time you look down on yourself, whether you think it's true or not, you reset back to square one. Remember that. So now we have the road to confidence. But we're not quite done. Shyness is a factor that dwindles with confidence, but still needs to be overthrown to help build confidence at the same time. Talk to the people around you. Be loud. You don't have to make a total change all at once, but just take it in comfortable strides. Talk to that girl next to you in math class tomorrow, about the weather. Anything. Say hi. I started on this road by a very simple method that worked superbly: Acknowledge every single person you see in the hall that you know. Whether you're good friends or just kind of know them from another class. I make it a point to nod and say their name. There goes Josh from Science...I nod and say Josh in a friendly-hello-ish tone of voice. This, you should start immediately. It is easy to bring yourself into, and helps greatly with shyness and confidence, without you even realizing it. So now we're combating the shyness/confidence situation. What else do we need? Attitude. Be friendly. Always. Even people you hate. Diplomacy is the most important aspect. Be able to get along with the smartest kid in the class and the dumbest gangsta kid. Adapt to your situation such that they look at you like an equal. If you want more clarification on this I could go off on this a bit. With the sense of diplomacy thrown into the mix, all you have to do is just set your attention on the girls. Acknolwedge the girls in the halls. Say hi. Be friendly. Smile. You don't even have to talk all that much. A few hellos go a long way. Always smile too. Never let yourself look sad. That's a turn off. ...and that's it for the moment....try it out. Keep us posted. Post any events that you thought went wrong or you thought went right. We'll keep you advised.

Replies runthespread Posted at 11:21 am on Sep. 20, 2008 I'm naturally pretty shy. I'll be vocal once I'm comfortable but otherwise I tend to be more of a listener than a talker. I got to a point where I stopped being as shy but I feel like it's coming back to me now, unfortunately. MixedDelight Posted at 8:06 pm on Sep. 15, 2008 ....I like shy boys :) MI007 Posted at 1:02 pm on Aug. 28, 2008 I've always had trouble with shyness around people I don't know well. What I've found helps is meet a girl in real life. Then talk to her on Facebook or MySpace until your more comfortable around them. Then ask them out on a date. The Nowhere Man Posted at 3:10 am on Aug. 21, 2008 So... 1: I yell "I DO! I DO! I DO BELIEVE I'M CONFIDENT!", maybe with some clapping to help as well? 2: I immediately somehow let go of the 17 years of experience that have crafted who I am (not to mention the biological factors) and become a TOTALLY COOL EXTROVERT? FabulouslyBritish Posted at 9:19 am on Aug. 19, 2008 I'm only shy around guys, I hate it :( normajean Posted at 7:18 am on Aug. 19, 2008 too long to read, but the best way to overcome shyness is practice. Many people are shy. and when you realize that you are a step ahead. I used to be scared of class presentations, but when i realized everybody was too, I used it to my advantege, now i love giving class presentations. Well you need to put yourself in situations where you are shy until you can be calm in those situations otherwise you will always be shy. thats the truth. Sincerely Dark Posted at 3:05 pm on Aug. 16, 2008 Quote: from marissa16 at 6:02 pm on July 10, 2008 Im a 15 year old girl i have suffered from shyness my whole life.. and now that im at the boyfriend stage most guys dont go for shyness. i need help to overcome it WORD! I'm fifteen, totally, completely shy as Hell, and rarely even get a second glance from guys... it's so annoying sometimes but I can't help it! I'm just... well... I'm shy! I never know what to say! lucky015 Posted at 3:47 am on Aug. 14, 2008 I'm a 16 year old guy and I used to suffer from being shy (and still do at times), I was shy to the point that a girl I had been with for 2 years who I have loved since first sight was making passes at me as we where lying on my bed (first time I had seen her in 2 years and she comes over to my house) and I didn't have the guts to do anything until she basically came right out and said that she had been tryna get me to kiss her all night, at that point i plucked up every bit of courage i have and killed my shyness in about 5 seconds flat, BEST THING I EVER DID!!! BodomChick Posted at 6:08 am on Aug. 6, 2008 that's good advice :) Beazly Posted at 5:53 pm on Aug. 5, 2008 Quote: from marissa16 at 6:02 pm on July 10, 2008 Im a 15 year old girl i have suffered from shyness my whole life.. and now that im at the boyfriend stage most guys dont go for shyness. i need help to overcome it Personally I'd rather go for a shy girl than a stuck up "outgoing" girl. I guess that's because i'm shy as well. hehe WorldSexVideo Posted at 6:00 am on Aug. 2, 2008 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations siekolulu Posted at 12:41 am on July 21, 2008 love it!! you are awesome! confidence confidence confidence is always HOT even if the guy is ugly. hehe decopwex Posted at 8:50 am on July 16, 2008 Hello, this was the right thing that you have done. I don't think that you were wrong. All the best!     rame Posted at 5:10 pm on July 13, 2008 i good man haha marissa16 Posted at 6:02 pm on July 10, 2008 Im a 15 year old girl i have suffered from shyness my whole life.. and now that im at the boyfriend stage most guys dont go for shyness. i need help to overcome it Most recent 15 of 781 previous replies displayed.