Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic People think he's taking advantage Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]stuffydays[/m] at 10:02 am on July 3, 2009[quote]I'm pretty well-off (not rich but I have money and savings) My boyfriend however, comes from a really poor family and is struggling to get through college payments. I've been with him for two years now, and suddenly now since I've bought a car, everyone says he's taking advantage of me. Yes, I drive him back and forth from work. Yes, I pay for most of our outings. And yes, I get him nice things for holidays/birthdays. But I don't see how he's taking advantage of me. I'm sure he would do all those things for me too if he could. He gives me money for gas when he can, and he tries to help me when he can. But he repays me in so many other ways other than money. I really love him. It wouldn't matter what other people would think if those people weren't my parents, and my parent's weren't making comments to him every time they see him and constantly telling me how he's no good and how they are going to start to forbid me to see him. I don't know how I can show them that he's not just mooching off of me. Theres no way to explain it.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post stuffydays Posted at 10:02 am on July 3, 2009 I'm pretty well-off (not rich but I have money and savings) My boyfriend however, comes from a really poor family and is struggling to get through college payments. I've been with him for two years now, and suddenly now since I've bought a car, everyone says he's taking advantage of me. Yes, I drive him back and forth from work. Yes, I pay for most of our outings. And yes, I get him nice things for holidays/birthdays. But I don't see how he's taking advantage of me. I'm sure he would do all those things for me too if he could. He gives me money for gas when he can, and he tries to help me when he can. But he repays me in so many other ways other than money. I really love him. It wouldn't matter what other people would think if those people weren't my parents, and my parent's weren't making comments to him every time they see him and constantly telling me how he's no good and how they are going to start to forbid me to see him. I don't know how I can show them that he's not just mooching off of me. Theres no way to explain it.

Replies nik1 Posted at 1:26 pm on July 3, 2009 Whoa....you are in a tough situation when your parents turn on him.  That makes  a lot of tension around the house.   If you have to live with them and they are stupid then you have to take some of the crap they deliver.  If you move out you don't.  I don't know how old you are but sounds like it's time to move on.   The best thing you can do is not tell them anything.  The more information that have about him the more ammunition they have against him.  At some point you have to take a position and tell them that you are not going to quit seeing him and they better stop treating him and you the way they do. stuffydays Posted at 10:07 am on July 3, 2009 Quote: from Serj Tankian at 10:05 am on July 3, 2009 Well if he's not, why would you have to explain that? because my parents are old fashioned and think the guy should provide for the girl. In my situation, it's just not like that. They don't understand though, and they think he's taking advantage of the things I want to do for him, because he can't do the same for me. stuffydays Posted at 10:05 am on July 3, 2009 Quote: from da bears at 10:04 am on July 3, 2009 would you say you're taking advantage of your parents because you let them buy you nice things? no. that is their wishes. and me taking care of my boyfriend how I do is my wish. so why would he be taking advantage of me? Serj Tankian Posted at 10:05 am on July 3, 2009 Well if he's not, why would you have to explain that? da bears Posted at 10:04 am on July 3, 2009 would you say you're taking advantage of your parents because you let them buy you nice things? Lilmissthing14 Posted at 10:04 am on July 3, 2009 im so sorry All 6 previous replies displayed.