Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic rivalry? or friendship? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post vortex91 Posted at 2:42 am on Nov. 23, 2008 I'm really good friends with this girl and she's my total alter ego. We're always just a mark or two behind each other on tests and exams and in all other activities too. Anything I win an award in ...she's either winning the same place or a place behind :S however i'm REALLY competitive and though i think she's awesome there's always a tiny bit of me that's pissed when she's the one ahead. I know i'm a terrrrible person for feeling that way and not being supportive but believe me I wanna change. What can I do to make myself feel better about myself when I'm in such a situation so I can OBJECTIVELY support her ...like I would any other friend (and not get jealous)

Replies vortex91 Posted at 7:56 am on Nov. 23, 2008 Quote: from Gaelle at 2:50 am on Nov. 23, 2008 It's impossible. You'll always be rivals, you'll always be a bit jealous of one another. My boyfriend and I have this going on. hmm..i guess...it is hard to be in a relationship where the time ur bf feels good abt himself is when u feel a teensy bit bad abt urself for not being better:S (it's impossible to be completely un-insecure) and the same way, it bugs me that i can be selfish enough to feel bad ... damn cut throat competitiveness!   vortex91 Posted at 7:53 am on Nov. 23, 2008 Quote: from hyperlite at 2:50 am on Nov. 23, 2008 Just compete together in team sports so u own everyone but both win. yeah, i tried that and we were AMAZING! coz we know exactly how the other one is thinking... but frankly, not everything is a team sport...and i really want to get rid of this feeling coz it kinda nags me all the time..makes me get all paranoid thinking eeryone likes her more than me (its sick i know)..probably makes me perform worse...and besides, today it's her, tomorrow it'll be someone else and i might miss out on some really good friendships because of it. i've tried a lot, and frankly i'm beginning to think people aren't capable of changing the way they feel..they might change the way the act on it..so i cd just bottle everything up inside and pretend to be happy 4 her coz it's the right thing to do. (but i'll be one hell of a hypocrite) *sigh* Gaelle Posted at 2:50 am on Nov. 23, 2008 It's impossible. You'll always be rivals, you'll always be a bit jealous of one another. My boyfriend and I have this going on. hyperlite Posted at 2:50 am on Nov. 23, 2008 Just compete together in team sports so u own everyone but both win. isobel Posted at 2:44 am on Nov. 23, 2008 Don't compete together. blufindr Posted at 2:43 am on Nov. 23, 2008 You just do it. I can't tell you how. You just learn to treat it as a friendly competition. All 6 previous replies displayed.