Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic when the hell did i become the asshole? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Megathrax Posted at 9:14 am on July 10, 2009 for the longest time i've been the nice guy, the one who ends up getting the "you're a great guy, but let's just be friends" speech, and the one who was too shy and too much of a pussy to ask out girls or even flirt. then a few months ago i started flirting with this girl and now we've been going out two months. she's my first girlfriend and i've always said i'd treat a girlfriend with respect and put her first all the time, and for the first few weeks i did. but.. turns out it ain't that easy, and now i find myself sometimes going days without talking to her, and putting friends before her a lotta times. and the worse part is, after we had been going out for about a month, this other girl i secretly had a thing for broke up with her boyfriend and now things have been getting kinda flirty between us, even though i don't plan to do anything.. i dunno what happened but it looks like i became the asshole boyfriend i said i'd never be. no one been through anything similar?

Replies Bialor Posted at 9:20 am on July 10, 2009 It ahouldn't be a chore to talk to your girlfriend. If you feel like it is, and you find yourself putting off phone calls or spending time with friends as an excuse not to spend time with her then maybe the relationship just isn't right. If, on the other hand, you are just being lazy and you DO want to talk to her and spend time with her then you just need to put a little effort in. You don't have to totally abandon your friends to spend every waking minute with her, just spend a descent amount of time with her, and a descent amount of time with your friends too. But it sound to me that you just aren't right for each other if you only feel like your SHOULD spend time with her rather than really really WANTING to spend time with her. Relationships are about caring about each other and having fun, not feeling obliged to behave a certain way towards somebody if you just aren't that into them. Mods1Blow2Me3Daily Posted at 9:15 am on July 10, 2009 haha nope, im too nice, no one ever tells me im a jerk, but for LW, and thats cus i dont care about this internet All 2 previous replies displayed.