Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I hate this._kinda long_ Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post dancetillyadrop Posted at 5:15 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 I need to do some venting. My "best friend" is getting on my last nerve, she never shuts up about herself and this guy that treats her like crap but then all of a sudden wants her only because she puts out. Now all of a sudden she likes to read. She NEVER liked to read, now all of a sudden shes annoying. I have been a book worm since she met me and now she acts like "I don't know why you never read?" WTF?! I never put my books down! Now she has ever started dressing like me. I used to dress kind of how she dresses: punk/girly/party girl. But I've toned it down A LOT this year, and now I dress with earthy tones, argyle, pea coats, basically preppy, and now shes like "oh yea, so do i!" gahh now she doesn't! then my other friend has naturally frizzy hair and shes curling it everyday because some kid told me he liked my naturally curly hair. She usually straightens hers and it looks amaizng, but now SHES wearing her hair curly. I don't want to make it sound like I'm making myself sound all that, but they do this then they flaunt it in MY face. What is their issue?! Sorry this is so long, I just need someone to talk to.

Replies S0LITUDE Posted at 5:38 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 I think she's basically trying to be like you. Perhaps you're a successful person that's why. Or maybe there's something about you that she likes. Of course this can be good at first. I mean, we all like people who like us whether we admit it or not, but sometimes it does to far. Sometimes it gets out of hand and this is where you're at now because now she's starting to turn into a clone. She has lost her uniqueness and she's no longer a person really. I think this happens to all of us at some point, whether it be at an early age or during our teen years. We all want to be like someone else...literally. Perhaps we want to be like a celebrity so we dress like them and we also try to act like them. Sometimes we imitate a friend because we think it's "cool" and because we like that friend. We appreciate the things they do and we thing of them as icons. I can understand why you would feel annoyed. By her trying to be like you, you yourself are losing your uniqueness. You should talk to her about it. You have to admit that some of the things she is doing aren't that bad. For example, reading. At least she's doing that now, but dressing like you and trying to act like you is going way too far. You should tell her that she herself, should try to be unique. Try to put some confidence into her because that's what she needs. She needs to know that she doesn't need to act like someone else in order to be successful. She needs to know that although we may share some similarities we are all unique beings who can't, by nature, be the exact same thing. Tell her that if she likes some of the things you do, then it's fine because I'm sure a lot of people share a lot of the same things as you. But also remind her not to forget who she is. Perhaps you could just tell her that you liked the old her. That you liked it more when she was herself than when she started to imitate you. Just don't be angry when you talk to her. Say it in a nice way because after all, you are friends. Because I don't think she realizes that what she's doing is annoying you. I think it's just a lack of communication as well, that is causing this problem. So don't be mean or anything because this might break the friendship between the two of you and you wouldn't want that. If she doesn't listen or if you're to afraid to tell her, this will all eventually pass because it's only a phase. Another way for her to stop all this is to ignore her a bit. If she's starts imitating you in some way or another just pretend you don't notice as if it is normal. You could also start doing things a bit differently without telling her what you're going to do. This will be an implied way in which she will get the message that you don't like her trying to be a clone of you. Try some of these things, but it will eventually pass with time. These are just some ways to accelerate the process. You did well in venting. It's always nice to tell other people about it. If you want to talk about it. Or if there's something that was unclear feel free to message me :) Aliboo Posted at 5:17 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 Well imitation is the highest form of flattery. it sounds to me like shes lost her self confidence, and shes imitating the things she likes, to make her like herself. I would sit down with her and try to dig deep into the things that used to make your relationship strong, get past this fake layer she is putting up and get your friend back. good luck Jman19 Posted at 5:16 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 Imitation is the best form of flattery. All 3 previous replies displayed.