And that is not to say I expect the crush you have on her to go away overnight, especially if you still see her around and hang out at these church events or whatever. But you need to stop caring about the outcome of this. She clearly doesn't care either. My rule of thumb these days is to basically invest about as much time, thought, and energy into a girl as she is willing to reciprocate. Anything beyond that is a recipe for disappointment. I am by no means an expert, but personally this does keep me reasonably happy instead of walking around like a miserable basket case all day.

Post edited at 12:01 am on Oct. 16, 2009 by helloworld

This blows my mind. I thought she was a really considerate and caring person. It is beyond me how you could pretend to be someone's friend. I would feel awful if I did that to someone.

NOTHING happened. She's still your friend. You can still hang out. She didn't lie about anything.

If you aren't looking for a relationship with her, then you should let things carry on as usual. Maybe she's just giving you space after you've confessed your feelings, as others have pointed out.

Having a guy best friend that she can confide in doesn't mean that she has used you. What do you want? A blowjob for thanks?

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what the hell

NOTHING happened. She's still your friend. You can still hang out. She didn't lie about anything.  

If you aren't looking for a relationship with her, then you should let things carry on as usual. Maybe she's just giving you space after you've confessed your feelings, as others have pointed out.  

Having a guy best friend that she can confide in doesn't mean that she has used you. What do you want? A blowjob for thanks?  

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All of my friends say the same thing too. They have been trying to tell me for months that she was forcing a friendship because she didn't have anyone else to hang out with. And now that she has met new people, she has basically forgotten about her old "friends". What would you think?

but it's not about me, right?

if she talks to you less after you confessed your feelings, isn't it pretty natural and obvious? she hasn't completely ignored you. and she has actually invited you to a church thing. that sounds like pretty good behaviour on her part. have you invited her anywhere? instead of being paralysed about what she thinks?

there's a difference between having a "always there" friend and some sort of wrongdoing where she's being a bitch and "suddenly stopped talking to you" or some shit

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Why would she not talk to me since I told her how I felt? It seems pretty obvious that ending all forms of communication with someone that likes you is going to raise some suspicions in that person.

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She invited me to that thing before I told her. I haven't heard a thing about it since then. I haven't been in a couple of weeks and she hasn't asked why or anything. I'm not saying she is ignoring me, I'm saying she doesn't care.  

Why would she not talk to me since I told her how I felt? It seems pretty obvious that ending all forms of communication with someone that likes you is going to raise some suspicions in that person.

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she doesn't like you back.

You should drop it.

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I've gotten to the point now where I really don't care anymore. I still think about her but it doesn't bother me really. I probably still do like her deep down but until something brings those feelings back up to the surface, they are probably going to stay there.  

However, I am ever so slightly angry because of the whole "ignoring" thing. She is going to want to hang out over Christmas break but I feel like I should tell her the way I see things. Meaning it seems like she just pretended to be my friend over the summer and we don't hang out at all anymore now that she has met other people. I don't know if I should tell her that or not though.  

I just thought of something else too. If I get over her somewhat by not talking now, when/if I hang out with her again I may be back to my old self. Lately, if I just stumble upon her, I don't really say much of anything because I'm ever so slightly mad. That might change though if I get over her for a little while.

Any ideas?

Post edited at 7:57 pm on Oct. 27, 2009 by Barnum

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Well I'm definitely not gonna try and lay on on her lol. I can't imagine that going well.

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You won't know until you've tried.

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Any ideas?

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Yep. Kiss her. At this point, what exactly do you have to lose anyway?