She gets us confused for a number of reasons origin, tendencies, height, ect. And I'm fine with that but he gets horribly pissed at her for it and actually it went to the point where in the few times I actually called her, he'd answer and say "Clare is busy right now" which I understand and say whatever and move on but...

About three weeks ago, he stole her phone (which she just got back after he got her in trouble) and called me about 13 times per day for a good week. I being used him being an ass, never answered except once to hear him say some rambling about how he has issues with me for whatever reason he has for the day and then I hang up and move on.

He's well aware that I don't flow in her direction and secondly that even if I did, I don't get romantic with friends. I'm just wondering if there's a legit reason for him to be pissed or am I just oblivious to an issue as that kind of thing seems to happen a lot. :/

Either way, he may just have a strong dislike for you.  I don't think there's anything you're really doing wrong other than being her friend, which isn't wrong at all.

You may repel each other, but you may want to consider confronting him about it.  It may or may not get you an answer, considering his type and reactions, but it may not hurt to try.  A simple, "Are you doign this because you think I'm going to take your girlfriend?" and see if he has a response towards it?

Either way, unless something else happened in the past that you've forgotten, that may be why.  Annoying as hell though... have you ever considered asking your friend if she knows why he dislikes you so much and if there's anyway to keep him from doing stupid things like calling you all the time?

That could also be a huge problem for him, because he's being mistaken for someone else. I don't necessarily think that it's you as a person that he's getting upset with, but rather the fact that his own girlfriend is sitting there and confusing him for someone else (and vice versa.) Think about it, you're in a relationship, your significant other confuses you for the next guy. You'd get pretty pissed off if it happened often, wouldn't you?

That goes over the top, and I don't think you have anything to worry about. He's honestly just being a complete asshole and I hope you realize that you're not doing anything wrong in this situation You're her friend, nothing wrong with that. If he can't accept this fact, then that's his fault, not yours. Of course he's going to get upset, but  I wouldn't blame him. If she's not fully aware of the issue, perhaps you should talk to her about it if you haven't already.

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I'll ask him next time I see him (which is pretty much never because she purposely splits us up) about if he thinks I'm going to take his girl. She doesn't really know either, his dislike was pretty much immediate because I'm "closer" to her.

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I personally thought that telling him that I am gay would have dissipated any threat he saw from me. I understand us getting mixed up pissing him off but, really, I haven't made a move or even want to. She knows better than he and I do about it, she knows about both of our difficulties and she tried to really make us talk at prom but really it started and ended with sour words.  

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I personally thought that telling him that I am gay would have dissipated any threat he saw from me. I understand us getting mixed up pissing him off but, really, I haven't made a move or even want to. She knows better than he and I do about it, she knows about both of our difficulties and she tried to really make us talk at prom but really it started and ended with sour words.

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Seriously, that should have, but some people are strongly paranoid over those types of things. Chances are he's being completely close-minded and thinks that you're either lying or playing him for a complete fool. Which we both know isn't true. Just don't give into him and (for a better choice of words?) crumble underneath his antagonism. He's just trying to get his away and get you to go away, which is completely stupid and shouldn't work at all.

The point is that he's most likely going to be sour and rude for a while. We can't make people like us, and while we can try to be as nice as possible, that truly never changes a thing in this world. /: Just be as polite as you can to him.

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Oh, I didn't know you told him you were gay. :D Sorry.

Seriously, that should have, but some people are strongly paranoid over those types of things. Chances are he's being completely close-minded and thinks that you're either lying or playing him for a complete fool. Which we both know isn't true. Just don't give into him and (for a better choice of words?) crumble underneath his antagonism. He's just trying to get his away and get you to go away, which is completely stupid and shouldn't work at all.

The point is that he's most likely going to be sour and rude for a while. We can't make people like us, and while we can try to be as nice as possible, that truly never changes a thing in this world. /: Just be as polite as you can to him.

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Yes, of course Wayne.
It makes great small talk, no, I'm kidding. I told him when they started dating. He just needs a hug, I'll make it through I hope. At one point he wanted to get physical and then he remembered that I am taller and weigh more than he does ( ).

He'll be better in time I hope.

Thanks