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( Chiefette )
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Mikey is going to be going to Medic school here in the Winder, and I am happy for him, and I want him to go, but I am worried. We have survived one round of medic school, but I hate hearing about all the statistics. They say and I have seen that 70% of relationships don't survive the stress of medic school. I am sure we will make it. I am not really that worried about it, and I know what it is like because I have been through it, but I know how stressed out he is going to be. I don't know why I am worried.
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School itself is stressful and regardless of the course of study, relationships go through a lot. Even after in the work world, there is a lot to go through whether it be hours of work, travel, relocation, etc. It's not like high school stuff. It's tough and it'll test the relationship.
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Quote: from runthespread at 11:32 am on Aug. 16, 2009
 School itself is stressful and regardless of the course of study, relationships go through a lot. Even after in the work world, there is a lot to go through whether it be hours of work, travel, relocation, etc. It's not like high school stuff. It's tough and it'll test the relationship.
You don't understand. We don't think this is a high school relationship, we didn't expect it to be easy, but Paramedic is one of the most stressful and demanding courses, and a majority of the people that go through are adults in their mid to late 20s and older. They aren't kids, and yet about 7/10 relationships fail. That means many divorces.
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If you come across a car accident after midnight, and everyone is sober;
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MissCherry
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Where did you get that statistic from ? thats pretty high..
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Quote: from Chiefette at 8:37 am on Aug. 16, 2009
Quote: from runthespread at 11:32 am on Aug. 16, 2009
School itself is stressful and regardless of the course of study, relationships go through a lot. Even after in the work world, there is a lot to go through whether it be hours of work, travel, relocation, etc. It's not like high school stuff. It's tough and it'll test the relationship.
You don't understand. We don't think this is a high school relationship, we didn't expect it to be easy, but Paramedic is one of the most stressful and demanding courses, and a majority of the people that go through are adults in their mid to late 20s and older. They aren't kids, and yet about 7/10 relationships fail. That means many divorces.
I'm not saying your relationship is a high school one, I'm just saying that most high schoolers have no clue about these types of challenges that real relationships will go through. Being a paramedic means lots of intense stress and emotional turmoil, and that may affect their ability to come back down to express the right type of emotions for a relationship, if that makes sense. Add to that the odd hours they may have to work, it's probably really tough. If he can hold it together and if you can handle and truly accept the strain, then maybe there's a better chance.
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Quote: from MissCherry at 11:44 am on Aug. 16, 2009
Where did you get that statistic from ? thats pretty high..
The college
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Quote: from runthespread at 11:50 am on Aug. 16, 2009
Quote: from Chiefette at 8:37 am on Aug. 16, 2009
Quote: from runthespread at 11:32 am on Aug. 16, 2009
School itself is stressful and regardless of the course of study, relationships go through a lot. Even after in the work world, there is a lot to go through whether it be hours of work, travel, relocation, etc. It's not like high school stuff. It's tough and it'll test the relationship.
You don't understand. We don't think this is a high school relationship, we didn't expect it to be easy, but Paramedic is one of the most stressful and demanding courses, and a majority of the people that go through are adults in their mid to late 20s and older. They aren't kids, and yet about 7/10 relationships fail. That means many divorces.
I'm not saying your relationship is a high school one, I'm just saying that most high schoolers have no clue about these types of challenges that real relationships will go through. Being a paramedic means lots of intense stress and emotional turmoil, and that may affect their ability to come back down to express the right type of emotions for a relationship, if that makes sense. Add to that the odd hours they may have to work, it's probably really tough. If he can hold it together and if you can handle and truly accept the strain, then maybe there's a better chance.
We aren't high schoolers. High school has nothing to do with this. We didn't date in high school. Our relationship is nothing like a high school relationship, so anything related to high schoolers is irrelevant. I am aware of the challenges relationships go through. We have been through a lot. I went through medic school and we have survived that, and as I stated I don't know why I am worried, it just concerns me.
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Unfortunately, if you keep worrying that your relationship is going to fail, chances are it could! Looking at statistics constantly only heightens that fear, so please stop looking at them!! Unfortunately 7 out of 10 relationships do fail BUT 3 succeed!!! So there's no reason why you can't be one of three. It's good that you acknowledging a tough year ahead so start making a game plan about how you and your boy can get through this!! Also, spend some extra time together doing silly things before the tough semester starts. It sounds like the upcoming semester is going ot require alot of patience and attention to one another needs...That could mean mailing cards of encouragement or dropping off dinner in the library on those late library nights. If you and your guy want this relationship, which it sounds like you do, you guys will figure out a way to get through this together. Enjoy the time you have together now and talk about your fears and concerns so you guys can come up with a plan. Just remember what dosen't kill you can only make you stronger. Good luck!! :)
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How old are you? Not saying it has anything to do with your feelings about him going, but I keep wondering for some reason...
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Quote: from Chiefette at 9:31 am on Aug. 16, 2009
Quote: from Roxius at 12:22 pm on Aug. 16, 2009
How old are you? Not saying it has anything to do with your feelings about him going, but I keep wondering for some reason...
I will be 21 in November and he is my husband will be 21 in February. He isn't just some boyfriend. We are married and I know that re will make it so I don't know why I am worried.
I see. And I know he's your husband, not just some boyfriend, okay? Well, it's perfectly normal I suppose to be worried about something like that, but will he be gone the entire time?
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He won't be gone anywhere. It is a year long course and he will live at home. The school is only 30 minutes from home.
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