My main question is at the end....

My boyfriend a while ago had asked for an open relationship to figure out if this was right for him and said that he still loved me and it wasn't about getting some from another girl. It only lasted about a week and a half after many feelings were hurt.

He felt he had been manipulated by this girl he was seeing and had some sexual experiences with her. He said it wasn't the same he didn't like it nearly as much because it wasn't me said he wished it had been me and realized that he could like and maybe even love someone else but he wanted me.

Now what I'm trying to ask is do you think sometimes that's just what guys need? A taste of another girl to realize what he already has? Is it a normal thing to do?

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I know it's time to end the relationship if they ask for something like that.

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i think you all should keep it just you two,

i know i couldnt let my man be with another girl,

but thats just me

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He said "i ♥  you"
I sneezed and said "sorry im allergic to bullshit"

but the moral is
he came back after being with other girls; he said its what he needed.

once you loose someone you have and start scopin' out other people you realize theres no one better for you then your significant other.

or the new person wil lack somthing you loved most about your man

I imagine having your boyfriend ask for such a set-up would be difficult to deal with. I don't think what he did was normal, and I would probably find it really upsetting.

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- لورين

Love, all alike, no season knows nor clime,
Nor hours, days, months, which are the rags of time.

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It's already set in your mind that this is ok. You're already making excuses for him. why do you care what we think then?

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Why? Because I don't know how to cope with the damage that was already done. I guess I just need someone to talk to you know?

It's not worth the mental and physical pain...thinking about him constantly with that other girl... constantly thinking that you're not good enough for him, constantly wondering when the next time he'll want an "open relationship" so he can go fuck someone else.

Not, worth, it.

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"A wise girl kisses but doesn't love,
listens but doesn't believe,
and leaves before she is left"
-Marilyn Monroe

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My ex boyfriend did the exact same shit to me, and fed me exactly the same lines.  

It's not worth the mental and physical pain...thinking about him constantly with that other girl... constantly thinking that you're not good enough for him, constantly wondering when the next time he'll want an "open relationship" so he can go fuck someone else.  

Not, worth, it.

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He told me anyhow that he would never make me do another open relationship again because he saw how much it hurt me and also how poorly I dealt with the entire situation.

But if he does suggest it again it's not going to happen. He didn't quite fuck but had some oral fun. He wouldn't have sex with her because I was his first and promised me since that was special between the two of us that that would be a boundary.