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I hardly eat anymore
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I hardly eat anymore, I can't even finish anything that I attempt eating because I feel sick and apparently I have lost a bit of weight but I haven't weighed my self so I don't know how much I weigh. I hate being like this and its not like I think I am fat because I don't and I want to know what the hell is wrong with me because I can only tell one person but would prefer not too. I am putting this under anonymous because I have photos up so I don't really want anyone to know who I am.

2:37 am on Oct. 23, 2009
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Look- if you're body is telling you that it wants to lose weight, then don't freak out. I had similar issues, and the only thing that happened was I lost a few extra pounds.
There is nothing 'wrong' with you- you might just need to eat a bit differently. Try eating fruit and salad, or try drinking smoothies. Don't worry about it too much though.

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Oh ok thanks, oh ok then, I suppose so, I will try that and I am trying.

3:01 am on Oct. 23, 2009
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Heyy. :)

As for the inability to actually finish what you're eating, we all get that at some point. Sometimes it has to deal with the content we're intaking, other times it's all about us actually being so hungry to the point where we deny and refuse the food which we're eating, giving us that feeling of sickness in our stomach. It's natural at first, especially if you've just gotten out of an eating disorder or starting to enter one. The best thing for you would to be to either change your diet, or try to easily work the foods into your system [via. eating slowly and making sure you actually chew everything fully.]

If possible, try to figure out how much you weigh. Compare it to how much you weighed last time you had to weigh yourself. Likewise, look at the difference in your diets from now and then. If you see any dramatic changes which can be deemed as unhealthy, try your best to change them to what they used to be. Definitely if you're becoming sick over the last few weeks/days.

From the sounds of it so far, you're definitely not anorexic unless you're purposely not eating to lose weight. You don't seem like you have any of the symptoms, but then again, you haven't really said much. Is there anything else you can tell us/me?
~Wayne

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Quote: from Eklipse at 10:16 pm on Oct. 23, 2009

Heyy. :)

As for the inability to actually finish what you're eating, we all get that at some point. Sometimes it has to deal with the content we're intaking, other times it's all about us actually being so hungry to the point where we deny and refuse the food which we're eating, giving us that feeling of sickness in our stomach. It's natural at first, especially if you've just gotten out of an eating disorder or starting to enter one. The best thing for you would to be to either change your diet, or try to easily work the foods into your system [via. eating slowly and making sure you actually chew everything fully.]

If possible, try to figure out how much you weigh. Compare it to how much you weighed last time you had to weigh yourself. Likewise, look at the difference in your diets from now and then. If you see any dramatic changes which can be deemed as unhealthy, try your best to change them to what they used to be. Definitely if you're becoming sick over the last few weeks/days.  

From the sounds of it so far, you're definitely not anorexic unless you're purposely not eating to lose weight. You don't seem like you have any of the symptoms, but then again, you haven't really said much. Is there anything else you can tell us/me?
~Wayne


Thats what is bothering me because I don't feel hungry so I don't eat, I have only had a couple of little things over the past couple of weeks because I am not hungry and because I was not happy with how much I weighed, I  weighed 44 kg  the last time I checked and I am around 145cm. I have kinda being starving my self on and off for the last few years. I don't really know what else I should tell you. I have never made myself sick but I just don't eat.


10:37 pm on Oct. 23, 2009
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:D Oh yay.

Okay, here I can relate so easily one-on-one when it comes to not being able to eat because you're not hungry, and truly it's fine. I lost my apatite for a good few weeks/couple of months after and before I developed a slight case of anorexia. I still have days like that, and they do truly come and go. Not like a "oh, well I'm just not going to eat because I don't want to" type of thing, but definitely in the idea that it's repeating and over a span of about two months. The thing is that even though we can't/don't want to eat, we have to continually push ourselves to eat. Doesn't sound nice, but in order to assure yourself the nutrients and good health that you need, you're going to have to try. It sounds annoying and stupid, sure, but at least try to eat as much as you can until you reach the point of full/pure sickness feeling. eat healthy food, rather than things which can potentially make you sick, like I've said.

Okay, now we're getting somewhere. You were unhappy with how much you weighed. Thus, you started to subconsciously start starving yourself. It's not your fault, these things do just happen. From this alone, I could draw the conclusion that you can potentially have Anorexia Nervosa.  Though it'd take these, along with other factors, to draw the conclusions:


--Refusal to maintain body weight at or above a minimally normal weight for age and height: Weight loss leading to maintenance of body weight <85% of that expected or failure to make expected weight gain during period of growth, leading to body weight less than 85% of that expected.
--Intense fear of gaining weight or becoming fat, even though under weight.
--Disturbance in the way one's body weight or shape are experienced, undue influence of body weight or shape on self evaluation, or denial of the seriousness of the current low body weight.
--Amenorrhea (at least three consecutive cycles) in postmenarchal girls and women. Amenorrhea is defined as periods occurring only following hormone (e.g., estrogen) administration.

Also, I'm not a professional, so I can never for certainty say you have any disorder. It's all hear-say, so keep that in mind please. :) Are you aware of possible consequences? :/

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Quote: from Eklipse at 10:58 pm on Oct. 23, 2009

:D Oh yay.

Okay, here I can relate so easily one-on-one when it comes to not being able to eat because you're not hungry, and truly it's fine. I lost my apatite for a good few weeks/couple of months after and before I developed a slight case of anorexia. I still have days like that, and they do truly come and go.  Not like a "oh, well I'm just not going to eat because I don't want to" type of thing, but definitely in the idea that it's repeating and over a span of about two months. The thing is that even though we can't/don't want to eat, we have to continually push ourselves to eat. Doesn't sound nice, but in order to assure yourself the nutrients and good health that you need, you're going to have to try. It sounds annoying and stupid, sure, but at least try to eat as much as you can until you reach the point of full/pure sickness feeling. eat healthy food, rather than things which can potentially make you sick, like I've said.

Okay, now we're getting somewhere. You were unhappy with how much you weighed. Thus, you started to subconsciously start starving yourself. It's not your fault, these things do just happen. From this alone, I could draw the conclusion that you can potentially have Anorexia Nervosa. Though it'd take these, along with other factors, to draw the conclusions:


--Refusal to maintain body weight at or above a minimally normal weight for age and height: Weight loss leading to maintenance of body weight <85% of that expected or failure to make expected weight gain during period of growth, leading to body weight less than 85% of that expected.
--Intense fear of gaining weight or becoming fat, even though under weight.
--Disturbance in the way one's body weight or shape are experienced, undue influence of body weight or shape on self evaluation, or denial of the seriousness of the current low body weight.
--Amenorrhea (at least three consecutive cycles) in postmenarchal girls and women. Amenorrhea is defined as periods occurring only following hormone (e.g., estrogen) administration.

Also, I'm not a professional, so I can never for certainty say you have any disorder. It's all hear-say, so keep that in mind please. :) Are you aware of possible consequences? :/

Thank you so much for all the advice that you have given me, I haven't been happy with how much I weighed for a long time, it nice to have some one to talk to that has been through this before, I will keep that in mind, no I am not really aware of the possible consequences.


11:07 pm on Oct. 23, 2009
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You're always welcome, and never forget that, okay? :) Since you want to keep your identity all private and such, if you ever make another topic in TED, just feel free to write something somewhere like 'Eklipse please respond' since I tend to look at all of the topics in this forum. :)

But onward:
Ah, I know how you feel. I wasn't happy with my weight at the beginning of the school year last year. I was 140/142ish pounds, at a height of like 5 foot ten. I was disgusted with myself, and the only thing I ever saw (and still do now) is fat. Everywhere. To this day, it sickens me. It makes me feel like I'm not worth being here. But you know what? I've realized that I do serve a purpose in this world, and so do you. Sure we may not realize it now, but if we're going to die, wouldn't you rather it be through something else? Not where we're going day-by-day starving ourselves into malnutrition. Causing so many medical problems that it become unbearable?

At the end of the day, we need to do what we can in order to keep ourselves alive and kicking, rather than letting our frame of thought get to us. Rather than allowing our bodies to fade away into nonexistence. At the end of the day, We our it to ourselves to stay as healthy as we can. Why? Because one day we will be out doing something worthwhile. Someday we could be out changing someone elses life. Sharing our experiences, or just through any professional career. One day, we will be doing better things.

This is just a kink in the road. Somewhat like a kink in a hose. (Bad metaphor :P) We just need to find out a way to fix what's tying the hose up, and come to a conclusion of what we can do to change it. Problems just don't go away. Sure you can untangle it easily, but in the long run the kink will reappear, causing more issues. We can only try to learn from our past, and apply it to our futures. We can only change what's in our lives, in order to better it. Try to figure things out, because deep down it goes beyond just thinking our bodies aren't good enough or that we're uncomfortable. <3

As for the medical consequences, here are a few:

    Anorexia nervosa may cause the following problems:

  • The heart muscle changes, and its beat becomes irregular, potentially leading to cardiac arrest and death.

  • Dehydration, kidney stones, and kidney failure may result in death.

  • Liver damage (made worse if substance abuse is also a factor) may result in death.

  • Menstruation often stops, even before extensive weight loss. This is called amenorrhea and can lead to infertility and bone loss or osteoporosis.

  • Muscles waste away, resulting in weakness and loss of function.

  • Slowed digestion caused by a lack of energy and diminished body function results in bowel irritation and constipation.

  • Permanent loss of bone calcium leads to fractures and lifelong problems of osteoporosis.

  • The person becomes intolerant to cold (especially in the hands and feet), and has sunken eyes, hair loss, bloating, and dry skin.

  • The immune system weakens.

  • Skin becomes dry and blotchy and has an unhealthy gray or yellow cast.

  • Anemia and malnutrition may result.

  • Fainting spells, sleep disruption, bad dreams, and mental fuzziness may result.

  • Suicide and eventually death.
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I hope this is truly helping.

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Ok I will never forget that thank you, I will do that.
I don't even know if what I used to weigh was even considered healthy but all I know is that I wasn't happy with it even though I have a boyfriend who says that he loves me the way I am and he would prefer for me to put on a little bit of weight but I don't know if I can just do that. I just tried to eat one piece of toast and only took a bite before I threw the rest out because I couldn't do it.  Thank you for that list, I really hope that I can get better because I want to have kids and be healthy and be happy with myself.

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11:40 pm on Oct. 23, 2009
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In all honesty, the thing about that which scares me is that you don't know if it was healthy or not, but you felt the need to lose weight (consciously, or subconsciously, but the fact still remains.) I'm not familiar with using kg as a weight, so I can't really say whether or not it's healthy. Along side, things like water weight, muscle mass, and all these other contributing factors go into the weight which you see on the scale. So is it healthy? Who knows. You could be say 150 pounds (where 120 pounds is the healthy weight), but almost 30 pounds of that is muscle. That's still healthy.

It's honestly what you choose to do, and no one can force you to put on weight. It is nice to have someone tell you that you're beautiful but on the skinny side. So that you can notice that they're seeing something which you don't. Would he go out of his way to say things like that if he truly thought you needed to put on a little weight? No, he'd just say you look fine and leave it at that. Don't just do it, and don't push yourself to do it. Do it gradually, one step at a time. This is definitely the best way to ever gain weight, along with healthy eating as I've already said.

Bread might not be the best thing right now. Those are loaded with carbs which is going to make it harder to stomach. Start small with your fruits and vegetables, and work your way from there. :)

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I ate dinner tonight because I had to but I didn't finish it and yeah I suppose so and I know that is scary but I am trying to get better. No he wouldn't say that for no reason. Yeah I suppose, yep I will start small and work my way up.

3:19 am on Oct. 25, 2009
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That's a great start, just eat as much as you feel that your body is capable of eating, and don't force yourself to eat any more than you actually can. You're seeming to put a lot of effort into getting better and changing for the best, which is amazingly well. A lot of people in your position usually can't get a hold of themselves and try to pull through, resorting in a needed therapy/rehabilitation-type in order to actually get better. Most people aren't capable of actually doing this themselves, so you should feel proud just for doing that. :) I certainly am proud of you.

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Yeah, thank you, I am trying to do the best that I can without having to get too much help. I am proud of myself as well.

6:51 pm on Oct. 25, 2009
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