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What should I do in this situation?
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I am kind of confused about my feelings now towards this one girl. I am a sophomore in high school and I asked a girl to the homecoming dance and I seemed to have fell in love with her afterwards as I talked to her more and got to know her. I have conveyed my feelings of love for her in the form of a poem (which is a bit on the light side) and a letter (in which I explained in detail how I felt). Last week was when I gave her the letter. At the end of the letter, I set up a date but I was rejected because she had a busy weekend. I also stated clearly that if she was annoyed and/or bothered by me, she should tell me upfront and that I will never bother her again. Her response to the letter was "I don't know." Because she didn't tell me not to see her, I ended up feeling really happy for the next few days. I was actually rejected by her a couple times before. At the dance, she said no when I asked her to a dance and she declined when I asked to have lunch with her off-campus.

This is how I felt about her:
-When I see her, it makes me happy and I feel all good inside. One day, I was kind of down and seeing her cheered up.
-I always think about her and I find myself drifting off into thought more than usual.
-I feel like I can do anything for her, but I don't know what to do.
-When I now look at the girls that I used to think were really beautiful, I always think of how much more beautiful she is.

But this week a few things changed. I normally want to see her and talk to her, but I ended up making excuses to myself and never talked with her. I couldn't even get myself to look at her and I tried to avoid her for some reason. I still have the same feelings as mentioned.
I don't know but I think I'm afraid of something bad happening. At this point, I feel like I just want to let it all go, but at the same time, I also want to continue to love her and wait for her to develop feelings for me. When I talked to her, I got mixed signals. I also noticed that she looked towards my directions a few times this week (I noticed this from peripheral vision), as if expecting me to come over to talk to her as I normally would. But then again, she could've just been looking for some other reason. I remember my feelings for her being so much stronger a few weeks ago, but now I'm starting to think what I had before was just an obsession. Before, I would try to talk to her whenever it was possible and now I can only get myself to talk to her when she is not with her friends. There were many instances where I wanted to say "I love you" to her but I was afraid of her reaction. Should I just open up to her in person and based on her reaction decide whether to pursue her or not? I was considering this many times but I really didn't want to lose her. Maybe because of the rejections, I feel as though I am going to get a negative reaction to her if I say those three words and I'd rather have the ability to talk to her than not. So based on all of this, can you guys tell me what I should do?


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She doesn't want you.

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It is called infatuation. Learn how to deal with it.
Just remember-- It's not really love.

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rabidsquirrel


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Uh... Wow. Long post. Good job.

But.. On to the point..
You definitely like this girl. The fact that you are avoiding her might just be you feel that she rejected you and are embarrassed by the fact that she knows your feelings for her.

But you might want to wait it out. Give her time to make up her mind and tell you. She knows you like her, now leave it be. If you keep bugging her she will just get mad, so let her come to you.



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Quote: from Lally at 2:52 am on Nov. 7, 2009

It is called infatuation. Learn how to deal with it.
Just remember-- It's not really love.

true

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