I have been going out with my girlfriend for 8 months. I am madly in love with her and we have talked about marriage. The problem is the last 3 or 4 months have been long distance and it hasn't been an issue. She told me she would be going to college close to me next year, but it looks like she is not anymore. Should I start to distance myself so our relationship fails? I am not going to do a LDR all through college..
9:46 am on Nov. 8, 2009
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Amelle
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Don't distance yourself, that's the cowards way out. Talk to her about it, tell her how you feel and put the ball in her court to decide what is more important: going to the college of her choice or her relationship with you. But don't make it sound like an ultimatum.
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if you start to distance yourself then the realtionship will most likely fail, because you did that. If you love her just go visit her or something.
why don't you just save her months and months of trying to figure out what she's doing wrong and just talk to her about it.. you'll either work something out or you'll break up.. that's so much better than trying to distance yourself from her and intentionally causing your relationship to fail and possibly giving her issues about trust in the future. although.. i have to say.. if you really loved her as much as you say you do.. i don't think you'd be thinking of brekaing up with her right now..
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If you really loved her you would not even consider this
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I can't do the distance
9:53 am on Nov. 8, 2009
switchfoott052
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talk to her about going to a college closer to yours. if my bf was in college and i was too i'd do whatever i could to be near him. that is if i really loved him which i do
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why don't you just save her months and months of trying to figure out what she's doing wrong and just talk to her about it.. you'll either work something out or you'll break up.. that's so much better than trying to distance yourself from her and intentionally causing your relationship to fail and possibly giving her issues about trust in the future. although.. i have to say.. if you really loved her as much as you say you do.. i don't think you'd be thinking of brekaing up with her right now..
I did talk to her about it. She said she was going to school in my city and then recently decided not to
why don't you just save her months and months of trying to figure out what she's doing wrong and just talk to her about it.. you'll either work something out or you'll break up.. that's so much better than trying to distance yourself from her and intentionally causing your relationship to fail and possibly giving her issues about trust in the future. although.. i have to say.. if you really loved her as much as you say you do.. i don't think you'd be thinking of brekaing up with her right now..
I did talk to her about it. She said she was going to school in my city and then recently decided not to
i mean talk to her about how you feel about that. don't just start distancing yourself from her. tell her that you don't want to do the long distance thing. tell her what you're thinking... and so on and so forth.. the only way she's going to know that you're upset is if you tell her and try to make an effort to figure out a solution that works for both of you.. if you can't work it out, then you break up.. but don't string her along while intentionaly trying to make your relationship fail.. that's cruel.
------- "organized people are just too lazy to look for stuff!!"
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why don't you just save her months and months of trying to figure out what she's doing wrong and just talk to her about it.. you'll either work something out or you'll break up.. that's so much better than trying to distance yourself from her and intentionally causing your relationship to fail and possibly giving her issues about trust in the future. 
