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Replies: 10Last Post Nov. 5 7:36pm by MusicalSuicide17
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As you know,LW,I only come here when I have a serious problem. I have liked girls since my 11th. I'm 17 now and bi but I feel like I'm being pulled to become a full lesbian. I tried to be with guys (once rejected,once lost to my best friend). It just never works out. Even though I'm bi,I've never been with a girl. But I really want to. What if I wasn't meant to be with a guy but a girl? I'm so confused. I think about it a lot and I can't concentrate anymore. Please help. I don't wanna get depressed.
And then there's something else. I haven't told anyone that i'm bi. That's something i'm really scared about. It's getting in my head and depressing me because I keep thinking that no one will like me when I come out. :(
Please,any advice?

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Nah. The base my sister's at would probably be closer then, and there would be less racist folks.

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this state is sooo stupid. we got the last president and we picked a complete retard. we dont get what we want so its time to leave like a pouty bitch. its stupid

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why use labels? Just be yourself. As for coming out, you have to be brave and do it. But be smart and assess the situation. If they will reject you, come out later.

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I'm going to be totally honest with you: "It never works out, so I'm going to become a lesbian" is probably the stupidest thing I've ever heard, ever.
There are millions of men out there, and millions of women. Just because you've cycled through an unlucky few doesn't mean you're never going to find someone of the opposite sex. You're what-- 15-19 years old? You've got a lifetime ahead of you to meet other people, don't stress. =)

Don't be depressed; there's nothing to be depressed about. I think you're just stressing yourself out. You like girls. You know you like girls. Do you like guys, or do you feel like you're supposed to like guys? Why complicate things further by trying to find a label to suit you?  

Bisexuality is so common these days, I wouldn't be surprised if only a handful of people reacted negatively, depending on where you live and such. If you really are a lesbian, and just late in discovering it, then I won't lie to you, you'll probably face quit a few annoying people in life who will hate you. Things like that happen, unfortunately, even to bisexuals, but if you're willing to come out, that's also something you need to be willing to deal with. It isn't fair, but luckily people are learning to be more accepting these days.

Nearly every person in their life goes through a stage where they consider their sexuality; lots of teenagers are exploring it these days early on, and still even some adults start to wonder and explore later on in life. There's nothing wrong with it.  

My main question is: why do you need to tell anyone you're bisexual? If you're already this stressed, why just create more stress for yourself by telling everyone something that isn't even their business to begin with?

Edit: Does your school have a GSA club or anything? Or maybe you could talk to a counselor or something at school, or maybe even a church or youth group.

Post edited at 1:44 pm on Nov. 5, 2009 by hannybananny

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Thanks,hannybananny. I don't want to be with a girl because it didn't work out with guys. You gotta understand me. I love both guys and girls. I have been with a girl but not in a serious relationship.

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Quote: from controlfreak at 1:54 pm on Nov. 5, 2009

Thanks,hannybananny. I don't want to be with a girl because it didn't work out with guys. You gotta understand me. I love both guys and girls. I have been with a girl but not in a serious relationship.

I apologise, I just hear that so often I must've jumped the gun and assumed that's what you were saying. My fault.

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First of all, nothing wrong with you liking girls. Being a lesbian myself I have find nothing wrong with it. Its just who I am. Second of all, I know its scary to come out to your friends and family but if they truly love you they'll accept you for who you are. Sure, they may judge you at first but then they'll come to accept it because that's the way you are and they can't define who you are. Only you can. If you like girls and don't see yourself with men then try being with a girl. You may come to realize that you are more attracted to them and can be more comfortable with them, but how can you know unless you try dating a girl first. Do this for yourself. Experiment, find yourself and you'll feel better about coming out to your loved ones. Hope everything is well and I hope I helped a bit.

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