Ok. I'm not going to go into my life story, so here's the cut-and-dry. Just looking for advice. :)
My whole life, I've been shut up, emotionally, due to abuse in the family. I've never had a relationship before, and I'm sure it is due to my inability to open up to people. On more than one occasion, I have been told that I come off as uninterested and guarded to guys.
How...exactly do I open myself up to a person? Anyone understand what I'm trying to ask/say here?
6:23 pm on July 10, 2009
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Just let them get to know you and don't freak them out.
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cash666
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just find an outlet that you can talk to guys. i know it muct be frustrating for you.
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You just have to let down your guard with someone. Try doing it with a guy friend first.
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Just wait for the right person
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It's hard, but you just have to let someone in completely. You wont be able to do it all at once, but someone is going to care enough to jump over that wall you've built. You just have to let them.
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Quote: from See Me Now at 6:26 pm on July 10, 2009
It's hard, but you just have to let someone in completely. You wont be able to do it all at once, but someone is going to care enough to jump over that wall you've built. You just have to let them.
Thanks to you, and to all the others for the kind advice.
I just...don't get how to take down the "wall". I'm not quite sure what I'm doing to keep it up in the first place, really.
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It's hard, but you just have to let someone in completely. You wont be able to do it all at once, but someone is going to care enough to jump over that wall you've built. You just have to let them.
