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What if my roommate hates me?
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So yeah. I'm going to college this fall and I'm getting a stranger for a roommate and I'm really worried that they won't like me. Or, more likely, find me really weird and/or nerdy.

It's true, I'm slightly eccentric and I have weird habits. And like, I've never shared a room with anyone else before, not even a bathroom, because I've always been an only child. So I don't know a lot about the whole "sharing" thing. I also like privacy and being by myself, so I don't know how that's going to work out.

And also I can't seem spend a lot of time with any one person before they start driving me absolutely insane.

What if she's nothing like me at all? I mean, it would be nice if we liked the same sorts of things, like books and music and stuff. So we could talk about it and share stuff and stuff like that.

This is the one thing I worry about most when it comes to college.

Maybe I just care too much about what people think of me. But I don't want to live with someone who hates me.

On an unrelated-ish note, one of my HS teachers has a brother whose freshman roommate turned out to be a serial killer.

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just dont be a douche..

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then it will be a very bad experience

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don't trip maybe only cool people go to our school =D

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chillax.
be the bigger person.

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they try to match you up as best they can at the university but if they do a poor job you can always request a room change or you can just suck it up and get out of your room a lot. i was worried too but my roommate seems pretty cool.

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You can always get a room-mate switch.

I think.

I don't know what to tell you though, thats just your mindset. Personally I'd be interested to see who I was room-mates with. Theres so many possibilities. Could be a pot head, which would be great because then I get pot. Could be a witty socialite, which would be great because they would be a connection to new people in college.

Thats only two but I don't want to make a long post.


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I'm about to be a sophomore and last year, I was just as freaked out as you were. I was worried me and my roommate wouldn't click and that we would hate each other, blah blah blah.

Well, it turns out, me and my roommate had almost nothing in common. We didn't click...at all.

But you know what? I went out and met other people and made new friends. So did my roommate.

And even though we didn't make the best of friends, we were still civil and respectful of each other. So we stayed roommates.

My point is, if you become really good friends with your roommate, great. You're in the minority.

But if you and your roommate don't exactly become the best of friends, it's not the end of the world. Just because you're roommates doesn't mean you have to be best friends. There are so many other people in college to befriend other than your roommate. And if you and your roommate don't bond doesn't mean you also have to hate each other. You can still be civil and respectful of each other.


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I'm almost exactly like you.

My roommate and I share no interests. He's usually never in the room. I guess he is some social butterfly. He doesn't use my shit. So overall, he's pretty good. I'm kind of nerdy, but I don't talk to him, so he probably doesn't know. Some things about him really annoy me, but I just think "well, it could be much worse," and I get over it.

I don't think he likes me, but I don't really give a fuck. We coexist peacefully.


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Quote: from takethechance at 4:58 am on July 10, 2009

I'm about to be a sophomore and last year, I was just as freaked out as you were. I was worried me and my roommate wouldn't click and that we would hate each other, blah blah blah.

Well, it turns out, me and my roommate had almost nothing in common. We didn't click...at all.  

But you know what? I went out and met other people and made new friends. So did my roommate.  

And even though we didn't make the best of friends, we were still civil and respectful of each other. So we stayed roommates.

My point is, if you become really good friends with your roommate, great. You're in the minority.  

But if you and your roommate don't exactly become the best of friends, it's not the end of the world. Just because you're roommates doesn't mean you have to be best friends. There are so many other people in college to befriend other than your roommate. And if you and your roommate don't bond doesn't mean you also have to hate each other. You can still be civil and respectful of each other.


Yeah, I don't think many roommates actually become friends, and I think that's a good thing. It forces you to meet other people. You don't want your only friends to be the people living with or near you.


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