I hate this._kinda long_ -- LiveWire Teen Forums

I think she's basically trying to be like you. Perhaps you're a successful person that's why. Or maybe there's something about you that she likes. Of course this can be good at first. I mean, we all like people who like us whether we admit it or not, but sometimes it does to far. Sometimes it gets out of hand and this is where you're at now because now she's starting to turn into a clone. She has lost her uniqueness and she's no longer a person really. I think this happens to all of us at some point, whether it be at an early age or during our teen years. We all want to be like someone else...literally. Perhaps we want to be like a celebrity so we dress like them and we also try to act like them. Sometimes we imitate a friend because we think it's "cool" and because we like that friend. We appreciate the things they do and we thing of them as icons. I can understand why you would feel annoyed. By her trying to be like you, you yourself are losing your uniqueness. You should talk to her about it. You have to admit that some of the things she is doing aren't that bad. For example, reading. At least she's doing that now, but dressing like you and trying to act like you is going way too far. You should tell her that she herself, should try to be unique. Try to put some confidence into her because that's what she needs. She needs to know that she doesn't need to act like someone else in order to be successful. She needs to know that although we may share some similarities we are all unique beings who can't, by nature, be the exact same thing. Tell her that if she likes some of the things you do, then it's fine because I'm sure a lot of people share a lot of the same things as you. But also remind her not to forget who she is. Perhaps you could just tell her that you liked the old her. That you liked it more when she was herself than when she started to imitate you. Just don't be angry when you talk to her. Say it in a nice way because after all, you are friends. Because I don't think she realizes that what she's doing is annoying you. I think it's just a lack of communication as well, that is causing this problem. So don't be mean or anything because this might break the friendship between the two of you and you wouldn't want that. If she doesn't listen or if you're to afraid to tell her, this will all eventually pass because it's only a phase. Another way for her to stop all this is to ignore her a bit. If she's starts imitating you in some way or another just pretend you don't notice as if it is normal. You could also start doing things a bit differently without telling her what you're going to do. This will be an implied way in which she will get the message that you don't like her trying to be a clone of you. Try some of these things, but it will eventually pass with time. These are just some ways to accelerate the process. You did well in venting. It's always nice to tell other people about it. If you want to talk about it. Or if there's something that was unclear feel free to message me :)

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