There must be people from school you know who you can call or text to come out and hang out. Not everyone can stay with only one group of friend, there must be someone who your friendly with but not really hang out friendly...change that and get new friends that way.

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I am cutting back on how much weed I smoke. The problem is that all of my friends smoke. I tell them I don't have any weed when we are smoking. They just want to smoke me out. They say I am fun to smoke with. When I told them I don't really want to smoke as much they just stopped calling me. It is summer and I do not make friends easily. Instead of socializing I just sit around at home. I don't know what to do.

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Okay. Let them stop talking to you and let them stop being 'friends' with you over the base idea that you choose not to smoke and further harm your body. If anyone is going to stop being friends with you over smoking weed, then how petty does this make them look? You aren't doing anything wrong by any means through telling them that you wish not to smoke anymore. As your friends, they should respect this and move on. After all, how good of friends can they be if they are going to stop talking to you due to this one instance?

Now, I know that you said it is hard to socialize and make new friends. This is even harder to do during the summer because we aren't in a very 'social' atmosphere such as school. You always have other choices to you, such as joining a club/gym, going to do a sports, or even going to the pool. It's hard to socialize and get out there, but once you do you'll feel much better about yourself. It's fine not to know what to do, and it's fine to be scared. You just have to trust yourself and trust that you know what you are doing. At first, making new friends will be (possibly) more difficult then stopping smoking. After a while, it will come at you a lot easier.

I wish you luck. (:

That says a lot in a situation like this.  You made a decision to change your life in a certain way.  You did.  With every decision, there's a consequence. Friends that actually cared about you would accept your decision (in this case). It's clear why they're not calling you anymore. It's because they want you to be the old you. You don't have to go back to the old you. You changed for a reason and people are either with you or without you. Just how true are they to you if they just want to smoke you out?

I understand the socializing issue. But use this experience to drive you to become a person that can make friends. Just because you couldn't make friends easily in the past doesn't mean you can't try now. You'll find people to talk to and hang out with if you just be yourself and communicate more. Talk to more people you've associated with in the past on Facebook for instance. Then see who wants to hang out. Making friends is all about using resources and just putting yourself out there.

Good luck and don't have any regrets about smoking less. You're just discovering who your true friends are.

James.

Post edited at 10:39 am on July 3, 2009 by jamesish