So today I actually gathered up the balls to actually go up to his college and meet the girl. I try to be casual and act like I didn't know she was gonna be there. That's how we planned it. Sure enough when I got there she was so amazingly pretty and cool. So we just sat there in the library and pretty much nothing happened. I just listened to my friend and the girl talk about random things. At first I was asking her about school, but then him and her just kept talking. I couldn't think of anything to say, and when I did say something I sounded extremely stupid. It was awful.

So I feel super shitty. It was pretty much my last hope at meeting a decent girl. And finally I meet one that's just what I like and I ruin it. Fml. I wanna die.

My friend says his relationship with her is just a friend zone level relationship. But thats better than me not being able to say anything at all.


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"If you wake up at a different time,
in a different place, could you wake up as a different person?"

I honestly don't think you've screwed anything up. You're being really hard on yourself because it didn't go the way you wantedbut I'll bet that she didn't think you said anything stupid and if she does I don't think she'll be overly concerned about it. I mean, it was her first time meeting you! It's not like you act like that everytime you see her because you've only seen her once. There's definitely still time to change her opinion of you, if she's even formed one at all, and there's still time to see if you can get to know her and possibly form a relationship with her. You won't know if you don't try, right? Have a chat with your friend, see if anything can be arranged. What's the harm in arranging a night out or something and asking that he invite her along?

Post edited at 1:05 pm on April 6, 2009 by amiee

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i think you're the same as me, we see things they'll never see

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Why does this have to be the end of what could have been? Meeting someone for the first time is nerve wracking and a lot of us come away from it feeling that we've made a completely mess of things and that we've embarrassed ourselves. So things didn't go exactly to plan when you met - why does that means you can't try again and arrange to meet up with her and your friend, and possibly some others? If you arrange to do something social with everyone together, you may have more time to spend with her and can try again with getting to know her.

I honestly don't think you've screwed anything up. You're being really hard on yourself because it didn't go the way you wantedbut I'll bet that she didn't think you said anything stupid and if she does I don't think she'll be overly concerned about it. I mean, it was her first time meeting you! It's not like you act like that everytime you see her because you've only seen her once. There's definitely still time to change her opinion of you, if she's even formed one at all, and there's still time to see if you can get to know her and possibly form a relationship with her. You won't know if you don't try, right? Have a chat with your friend, see if anything can be arranged. What's the harm in arranging a night out or something and asking that he invite her along?

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you're totally right. thanks.

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"If you wake up at a different time,
in a different place, could you wake up as a different person?"