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my daughter seems to binge eat
Replies: 29Last Post Sep. 2, 2008 7:18pm by jessica20110
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AndWhenHeFalleth


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She's 7.  She's not old enough for self control.  That's your job right now.  If you make these foods available, she will eat them.  Stop making them available, and she won't.

Don't worry about upsetting her.  She will get over it.  It may be rough at first, but once she gets used to the new rules, she'll adjust.  You're her mother.  She's not always going to be thrilled with your decisions.  It comes with the territory.

Best of luck.

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Quote: from BeautifulLies82 at 12:34 am on Aug. 19, 2008

You're her role model. Don't buy shit and exercise with her. Seriously.



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You're her mom, put your foot down, tell her no and send her out to play.

Post edited at 6:11 am on Aug. 19, 2008 by i r sekz

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Stop buying sweets, or if you do, make them unavailable unless she does something to deserve it.

Also make sure she plays outside at least a half hour every day.

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Just give her healthy meals, ask her nan not to give her chocolate but to encourage her to make fruit smoothies with her or something.

Make exercise fun, with things like running around with a tennis ball or take her swimming, get her involved in a club of some kind.
Does she have any reason to be unhappy? as this can be a cause of overeating, any problems at school or anything that you know about?

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With her being such a young age it's hard as you don't really want to encourage a body image problem. The best thing you can do is stick to the exercise plan and healthy meals as much as possible.

You could also try making chart to track her progress and rewards when she reaches certain goals. I suggest the rewards being something other than sweets though.

But you also have to remember that as she doesn't get crisps and chocolates very often she is bound to binge on them when she gets the chance to, just because she doesn't know when she'll next get them. Not that I'm saying you should give them to her more often, but maybe find a healthier alternative - like baking your own crisps.

Good luck

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ask her nan not too buy them or keep them locked away and for u
DONT BUY THE CRAP FOOD

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You cant be worried about not upsetting her.  If you deny her sweets, she will get upset.  End of story.  You simply have to deal with it.  

Do not buy her junk food no matter how much she whines and begs.  Eventually she will stop whining so much.  Get her into a sport that will give her a decent amount of exercise (swimming is a good one).  


What she eats is your responsibility (and the fathers) and no one elses.  


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the first good step would be to stick to the exercise plan, make one that would be fun for both of you. you could try to take her to do things such as swimming, bike rides, or even just walks to the local park or something. Plus if she has her friends round maybe suggest they play in the garden if you have one, because this can encourage her to be more active.
also, if she is interested in dance, gymnastics or horse riding and you have the money, they are all really good active activities that will help her be more healthy.
the food issue will maybe be a little harder, it's alright for her to have treats, but that's what they have to be, treats. I'd make sure she was eating something like cereal for breakfast and balance everything else out, maybe put an apple in her school lunch box or some grapes. although it just sounds like it is the snacking that is the problem so I'd set out rules where things like crisps and chocolate were given as rewards, or only on one day of the week, unless it's a special occasion like a birthday and maybe once she has gotten into a routine she won't binge as much. i hope this is helpful.

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Well, children do look up to their parents, but here's a trick my mom did with me.

ONLY (and I don't care who says otherwise) allow kids to eat 3 times a day: breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Make it formal (real plates and napkins), eat with them and EAT SLOW. Don't allow seconds, keep portions small. She's seven, so it might be weird for her, but be strict. If they want a candy bar, break it in half and give it after dinner or lunch. Kids generally love fruit, so encourage that as a large portion... cut sandwiches and cereal servings to half of what they are eating.

This seems really strict, but kids don't really stop and think "oh, I need to lose weight". Cutting portion sizes in half and reducing heavy calorie food can produce dramatic results. Just be a good parent and make sure they get vitamins and lots of calcium. Be strong, and DON'T give in, no matter how many tantrums they throw.

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She's 7 years old for christ sake. Put the snacky foods in a high cupboard if you need to buy them. Tell her nan not to feed her chocolate. You're in trouble if you can't outsmart a 7 year old.

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I don't think there is any need for an exersise plan..even if she is overweight (that will just encourage bad eating habits and depression from an early age)

I would maybe give up on the crisps and make the sweets a fortnight-monthly thing. Find other things to treat her with and she'll eventually give up on the though of junk food =)

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Have a set diet plan for both of you and cut junk foods and sweets out of the equation.
If she does well reward her with a trip somewhere or a friend over or something-dont use food as a reward and make sure the reward still includes exercise.
Goodluck hun pm if you need help lol

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Stop buying it.  She's so young that she doesn't have any impulse control.  She's not binge eating for the reasons that people binge eat.  The food you're giving her just isn't filling, but it is tasty, so she's eating as much as she can.

Go to her doctor and ask for a referral to a nutritionist.  Then, get your entire family on a healthy diet plan.


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Don't go buying her stuff. Explain to her the benefits of a good diet...not over eating and stuff. And maybe like.....instead of having her BINGE on a cookie, let her have them at like....regular times? Ya get me? If she doesn't have a cookie for like 2 weeks, the next time she sees them, she WILL want to eat 10. So if she has regular exposure to them, then maybe she won't eat as many at one time.

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