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This guide revolves around helping people to help their friends.

What about the ones who self harm and want to stop but just can't. Like a drug.

It might sound retarded but where's the help for them. If they don't want to tell anybody but they want to stop because they don't want people to find out yet they want to keep doing it because it helps the pain then how do they stop???

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This site might be helpful to self-harmers: http://selfharm.net/

Don't know if any of that helped anybody but I wanted to share what works for ME  

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This guide revolves around helping people to help their friends.

What about the ones who self harm and want to stop but just can't. Like a drug.

It might sound retarded but where's the help for them. If they don't want to tell anybody but they want to stop because they don't want people to find out yet they want to keep doing it because it helps the pain then how do they stop???

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Notice the guides name
The Friends Guide to Understanding and Helping Self Harmers

This was written for people who know self harmers not people who do self harm. knowing a self harmer can be a tough and emotional experience as well, friends naturally want to help each other and its painful to not be in a position where thats possible. this guide aims to provide a level of enlightenment. thats all.

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Wow i want to show this to my friends

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Can i ask if you ever did?

This was the reason for writing it, you could create a fake hotmail account and send them the link maybe....

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and what if your ex boyfirend makes you promise not to do it ever again? Not that I listened...

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Exactly, You didnt listen, self harmers never will.
Self harmers cannot just stop,  after 5 years i still automatically want to harm everytime I'm angry/upset/down etc.

Self harmers need a replacement to harming, I found blogging. By writing i can focus myself and basically end up letting myself fall to sleep. It works for me, but every harmer must find their own way, i know many prefer art, or poetry....

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i need a little help with this fast. wednesday...i cut myself multiple times on my arm, lightly, with a razor. i did it to find out how my friends could cut themselves...i still dont know how... now, i am feeling slightly depressed, and my mind is so weird, it has turned it into a positive thing, making my body feel that the pain will feel good. luckily, i have enough self control that i only cut myself in the bath..which i have wednesdays and sundays. i need help soon, before i slip into the vortex so many here have fallen into.

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If you only cut in the bath you dont have self control, in fact it sounds like your planning the self harm rather than craving it.

your help needs to come from yoru will power, you need to decide when you walk in that bathroom to not take anything you can harm with. Nobody else can do this but you. As i mentioned a while ago, I'm over 5 years down the line from when i started harming and i still cant stop wanting it. Dont even think about starting, Once you have its so much harder to stop.

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