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why am i not happy about it
not as happy as i thought id be
Replies: 4Last Post Oct. 23, 2016 3:24pm by JennyColada
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one of the things that attracted me to my partner of  2 years was his enthusiasm for one day having children. he already has a 9 year old who i get along super with.

lately hes been pushing the idea more. asking to stop my pill and tell our estate agents we are looking for a bigger house as "we start a family".

ive always wanted kids more than anything and yet i dont feel excited - i feel pressure and anxiety about leaving my job.


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Do you feel he is pushing you too hard about it?
Do you want to reach a certain point in your career before having a kid?

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i have been an educator for 3 years and have just started at a brand new job and its going so well i cant imagine having to leave before i eveb start a second year there.

i feel like im being the sensible - thinking about jobs money time etc and hes just not planning, just wants it to happe and thats that


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Speak with your partner about it.

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I think it may just be the difference between fantasy and reality.

The idea of having kids can be very exciting, but it can also be scary as well! It's definitely ok for you to have mixed feelings on the matter. I agree with Kathy that it is very important for you to discuss this with your husband. If working is important to you then your partner should be open to discussing those possibilities with you.

You certainly aren't the only woman to go through these feelings either. While I personally do not have a history of looking forward to motherhood, I do have very strong feelings on wanting to continue work even after my partner and I begin a family (if we do). Working can be a big part of your identity, and it has been a large part of mine for over a decade, that's difficult to adjust to!

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