You have only given me one line of information her and I can already tell you that what you've experienced is indeed considered abuse.  Abuse is such a horrible thing to have to deal with and I am very sorry that you have been put in this type of position.  I just want to say that I am very proud of you for telling us about it.  I understand that it is not an easy thing to do and therefore, you really should feel very proud of yourself.  You have now taken the first step into solving this situation.  I know that this might not be easy to deal with but you need to try your best to be as strong as you can.  Try to be positive and know that things will get better.

You really need to tell someone about this.  Does your dad know that your step mother and step sister are treating you this way?  If he doesn't know, then I would really suggest that you talk to him about it.  Believe me, I know that's not an easy thing to do sometimes but you need to talk to him about it.  He needs to know what's going on.  Abuse is just so wrong and it's completely inappropriate.  You need to tell him what's going on because this behaviour needs to stop.  I want you to also know that none of this is your fault.  You don't deserve to be treated this way.  No one does.  Be strong and stand up for yourself.  Don't allow them to do this to you because you are worth so much more.

If you don't feel comfortable talking to your father about this for any particular reason, you can always tell another trusted adult.  You can talk to a teacher or a guidance counselor about what's going on.  I am so sorry that you're going through this and I really do wish that this stops very soon.  The lasting long-term effects of abuse is just so horrid and I truly feel very bad for abuse victims.  You need to tell someone about this.  This situation needs to be addressed immediately, for not only your own well-being but for the rest of your family's as well.  Obviously, there is something wrong with your step mother and step sister and therefore, they need help.  They cannot continue to treat you in this manner.  It's wrong and inexcusable.  It needs to be stopped.  Period.  Tell someone immediately.  If you're very scared for your life and need help immediately, call your local police and tell them what's going on.

For more information regarding abuse, visit this website.

For additional information or advice in regards to coping with the current situation that you're in, feel free to call any of the hotlines below.

Rape, Abuse, and Incest Hotline
USA:  1-800-656-HOPE
UK:  020 8683 3300

Youth Crisis Hotline
USA:  1-800-448-4663
UK:  0800 1111

I really hope everything works out for you.  Again, I am very sorry that you have been faced with such a difficult situation.  You need to try your best to be as positive as you can.  Seek help immediately.  This cannot continue.  The scary thing about abuse is that it can escalate very quickly and become very severe.  You need to do something about it.  Know that you are worth so much more and you don't deserve to be treated this way.  If you ever need anything at all or feel the need to discuss this further, please don't hesitate to message me any time as my inbox is always open.  I am always happy to help.

Just keep smiling.

Posted at 3:16 pm on Oct. 10, 2008

In my opinion, this is abuse.  But we over this forum cannot help you directly.  You have to stand up for yourself and notify proper authorities.  You could get help from a teacher at school.  Or a friend.  Try to take care of this as soon as possible if this is a serious problem.  You will get the help you need if you contact someone and tell whats going on.   Make sure to tell of everything that is going on.  So they will have a better idea.  You'd be surprised just how many people care about you.

Maybe they have anger issues or something else.  But this is no excuse.  Remember that your safety matters too.  And maybe you're worried about what will happen to them.  You can't really control this.  But always consider yourself and your happiness.

Best wishes.

~jamesish~

Posted at 3:15 pm on Oct. 10, 2008

If you do not feel comfortable talking to someone in person, maybe this hotline will help you.
Rape, Abuse and Incest Hotline 1-800-656-HOPE 020 8683 3300

I wish you the best of luck, and remember you did nothing to deserve this, but you need to do something about it, so it won't happen again.


Posted at 3:06 pm on Oct. 10, 2008